
Parents Whose children have been sexually abused Community Group
This group is for parents whose children have been sexually abused. We welcome both Mothers and Fathers. Here, we can offer support to one another. We can vent, cry and lift each other up. No condemning or criticizing allowed. We are here for support. We LOVE (((HUGS))) !

I have been struggling lately with forgiveness,not for my daughters abuser,I'm not ready for that,but for my mother in law.She has been the object of my rage.My husband cut all ties with her when she nonchalantly told us she hired the abuser a lawyer.That was 15 months ago.My husband's adult daughter keeps us informed of what is going on and in those past 15 months my mother in law has said some very,very damaging things.My husband is on drugs,I take our daughter from doctor to doctor to get meds,and that I was abused as a child and trying to get justice through our daughter,and many other things.Last week I started feeling like it's time to start healing,to try and reconcile somewhat.I feel a calm and have been struggling with weather or not to forgive her.She is a very controlling person and this and last holiday season has been wonderfully quiet and calming.So yesterday I watched John Hagee's sermon on T.V.I watch him occasionally but usually when my husband does,he loves him.But lowe and behold,the message was on forgiveness and I just had to watch.So he explained that devine forgiveness demands that the one forgiven changes.I don't believe that she will change,she believes she is right,her ways are set.she believes her denomination is the only one and looks down on others,so I am wondering if there is a way to forgive but not really associate with her,be gracious but not too involved.And if she continues in her ways what are my obligations?I do know I feel I have moved on and let a lot of the anger and revenge go,and maybe for now that's all I need
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I just found this group and joined today. The short version of what has happened is, I found out that my now adult son (24 years old) was sexually abused by my ex-husband, his step-father when he was 12 years old. My son never told me, his girlfriend asked me if I knew. I've experienced every single emotion possible about this! I'm now seeing a Therapist and just getting to the point where...
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I am thankful to have found this support group. My daughter who is in college disclosed 16 months ago that she was abused by a priest at her Catholic school when she was 8. We have been to some therapy separately and together since that time. I of course have extreme guilt even though I know that there was no way I could have known. I think back to specific incidents that I now know why they...
http://www.piratechristian.com/fightingforthefaith/2017/10/asterisk-free-forgiveness
I have actually gotten to a place where I've forgiven monster boy & big monster (his oldest brother) because they HAD asked for forgiveness...but I wasn't ready to forgive let alone knew WHAT I was forgiving until all the facts came out. Big monster verbally, repeatedly told me he was "sorry that this happened" when I barely knew about monster boy. He also kept sharing that his "mom will never change...she just isn't right...can't wait to get away, etc." Monster boy wrote me a letter...which we turned in a copy to the police, part of our hard evidence given to us before his mom realised we were going to go the legal route...and I can now see a scared, abused little boy who really is sorry for what he did but doesn't have the guidance or love to help him change his ways because he's stuck with these sicko adoptive parents...so NOW, I can forgive him.
I can even forgive monster girl because I see her more as the victim even though she's never admitted to anything.
As for Momster, DADster & monsteR (other brother)...I'm willing only when I can see SOME sort of repentance! I want to...God knows I do.
In the famous words of Frozen..."Let it go." For your own mental health sake.