I have been struggling lately with forgiveness,not for my daughters abuser,I'm not ready for that,but for my mother in law.She has been the object of my rage.My husband cut all ties with her when she nonchalantly told us she hired the abuser a lawyer.That was 15 months ago.My husband's adult daughter keeps us informed of what is going on and in those past 15 months my mother in law has said some very,very damaging things.My husband is on drugs,I take our daughter from doctor to doctor to get meds,and that I was abused as a child and trying to get justice through our daughter,and many other things.Last week I started feeling like it's time to start healing,to try and reconcile somewhat.I feel a calm and have been struggling with weather or not to forgive her.She is a very controlling person and this and last holiday season has been wonderfully quiet and calming.So yesterday I watched John Hagee's sermon on T.V.I watch him occasionally but usually when my husband does,he loves him.But lowe and behold,the message was on forgiveness and I just had to watch.So he explained that devine forgiveness demands that the one forgiven changes.I don't believe that she will change,she believes she is right,her ways are set.she believes her denomination is the only one and looks down on others,so I am wondering if there is a way to forgive but not really associate with her,be gracious but not too involved.And if she continues in her ways what are my obligations?I do know I feel I have moved on and let a lot of the anger and revenge go,and maybe for now that's all I need
I have had and have zero support through all of this criminal and civil case. My advocate is useless and clueless on guiding me. I have zero friends n family. They all vanished cause THEY couldn't handle what I ENDURED... why . where do i turn
I was raped. I don't want to go to the police, and I don't want my parents to find out. But I don't know how to move on with my life. I don't know how to cope. Please give advice.