I don't post often for myself. We are three years out from disclosure that was in February. Abuse ended by the end of October the year prior. So it took three and half months for a full disclosure. Therapy started within a week of disclosure and continued for more than a year utilizing three different counselors. My daughter turned 3 in october when the abuse ended and she is now 6.
For the most part our life has found a new normal. One that doesn't include my mom, her husband the perpetrator or my brothers who support them not us. This brings me pain but the children seem to not be bothered by not seeing them anymore although they were very close prior to this. I never could reconcile having relationships with anyone supporting or turning away from what happened. Sometimes I turn it around in my brain but I always arrive at NO this is not possible for me. As much as I work at forgiveness and acceptance. Reconciliation is just not possible.
But to my post title I've been thinking lately after watching some shows highlighting sociopaths that I'm thankful they have such shows to confirm to me yes someone who can seem so normal, so kind, helpful, could do something so horrible. Can continually shout their innocence in the face of real evidences and testimony having zero remorse and can be so convincing to everyone around. One show highlighted the fact that someone living with a darkside learns to hide that darkness well ... he has too and has had too for years he is close to 60 now. That the level of manipulation that occurs while simitanueously feeding the sickness and keeping the secret makes them an expert liar. The bible says the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy and I truly believe he is in the grasp of the enemy who is stealing children's innocence, killing their childhood and destroying their sense of security and the endless damage to the child and everyone involved.
Which is ironic as he is an expressed devoted Christian. Does daily devotions and prays. Crazy.
I am working through my second step study .... second time trying to be well....trying to find peace with this. One day at a time one step at a time.
My husband's father molested my 7 year old daughter for around 3 years we found out at the beginning of April 2020 when she came to me about it, he was arrested at around midnight the day we found out and called the police. He admitted it. We both felt much more relaxed after we knew he was in jail.. The next morning his mother and brother bailed him out of jail, knowing that he had done it. He's...
I just discovered this song; it's about recovery from alcoholism but the chorus is so true to our situations: "It gets easier but it never gets easy. I could say it's all worth it but you'd never believe me." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CagbTwPxXw&feature=youtu.be