My 4 year old son told me and his counselor in July that his dad was sticking a "pen" and "gate" up his butt in the showers at the Y. Both my boys have been wetting the bed after each visit and their behavior was really disturbing. Even sleeping with my jacket so I couldn't leave, night terrors, etc. plus he has them call him "sir", like "sir took us swimming". I just never suspected that! Of course we talked to him about it and asked him to draw pictures so we could understand what he meant. He drew 3 very graphic pics of them both in the shower. His counselor filed a report with DCF and the police. The forensic exam didn't show anything because it was weeks after he had seen him, and it wouldn't have damaged his butt or whatever if it was a smaller object, like what he drew and described. His father was getting deployed so JAG stepped in and the case was closed within hours! They immediately called me and told me that I needed to get the boys to meet with their father right then. I was at the eye drs seeing if my son needed eye surgery (he didn't thank goodness), and they actually started yelling stay me to leave and reschedule the appt so that they could see him before he left. I didnt even understand what had happened. I told them I needed to check with my atty and they said if I tried to keep the boys away from him I was a terrible parent and person. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. The boys were so confused when we met him at friendlys. My younger one came home and cried for hours and my older one wet his pants twice at school because he thought he saw his truck pull into get him. That was a month ago. He's gone now but wants to Skype them. And I have to go to court Monday to discuss a parenting plan when he returns. I told my oldest about Skype last night and he had a nightmare the his dad came to the house and tied us to the bed so we couldn't save him when he was being taken away. He's 4 and doesn't understand what it means that he's gone for a year. They tell me that since there is not enough evidence he has the right to have the kids when he comes back. And the most realistic thing to fight for is no overnights and visitation in a public place. But he has the right to fight that. We had that before because he kept forgetting to feed the boys, change their diapers, or brim them to the bathroom. A 4 year old wouldn't be able to make this up! How do I explain this to him? He is so afraid. And now he is upset that sir will find out that he told and doesn't want to talk about it. He says he did it to himself or he doesn't remember. I'm so angry and trapped I don't even know what to do. And now they may come after me if I don't just let it go! How do you let it go? Especially when you're child is terrified and in danger
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