Parents of Prisoners Community Group
A group that tries to share with each other how they deal with being a good supporting parent of a prisoner and the unique problems that arise. What to share or not, how to deal with spouse of prisoner, ex-spouse of, children of prisoner which we may not see either anymore,so forth
Not sure where I'm going with this. As I have gotten to know so many of the people on DS, I have found good, compassionate, loving people. Our children may, and in some cases may not, have made bad choices. I have come to the realization that my own son did make a very bad mistake. But why oh why are the punishments as extreme as they are? We have become a vengeful country. Mistakes are made, people must be punished but what about looking at each person and understanding the circumstances that cause them to do what they have done. How can any civilized country lock up the citizenry for such long periods of time? It would be less expensive and better for the community if we used rehabilitation instead of punishment. I visited my son this weekend and as I looked around the room I witnessed so much sadness. We all put on a happy face for our loved ones and they in turn do the same but lets face it we are all sad beyond belief.
Sometimes I believe the prosecuters, judges and jury are more evil than anything our loved ones have done.
Donna
Sometimes I believe the prosecuters, judges and jury are more evil than anything our loved ones have done.
Donna
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
I did. LOL! and forgot to put how I felt here....sorry about that...just call me a ditz!
And yet many do feel that they did their job and that nothing is wrong with the system. We are all like them they just can not see that. Everybody is dysfunctional to a degree. we all make poor decisions....some get caught or some actually have fallout in their lives for choices we all make. Not knowing what is around the corner headed right at us...or in the case of our loved ones...it can happen to anyone....Does that make sense?
They just do not understand how easily ones are in trouble and how harsh they are for sometimes only one bad decision.....where is the mercy all deserve? Would not each of them want that same mercy and reasonableness in their own loved ones cases if they were in our situation or our loved ones in prison situation?
Someday they will all realize how unfair this system is when it happens closer to home to them and their families.
Pray for that day to come quick!
Love Rhea
This is my first reply here, but I had to respond..I just said the same exact thing to someone only moments ago...The sentences are so long that when they get out, they no longer have a life, as they know it..Children are grown, spouse is maybe gone and parents are older or dead.This cant be the only way...Punishment is one thing..This is rediculous..
Thanks for letting me interrupt...
Patty
That is the purpose of this is to get all our feelings and problems in the open and then see if somehow we can make things better.
For us and for our loved ones!
And we love to hear others input too.
For years I would tell my son you must be accountable for your actions and their are consequences. in the beginning it wwas juvenile detentions, then proveincial and federal time. But because we live hear in Canada our
penal system is not so harsh as the states.
Sometimes judges uise cases as examples and give the big sentences.
Feel your feelings cry if you have to and trusr in God as he will give you the strength to persevere
So what is the answer to Society's penchant for locking up it's citizens?
The United States has more people in prison than any other country including China which far out distances us in population.
Again, I ask what is the solution.
We are the solution, we have to advocate for prison change and change in criminal justice. We have to get involved and can no longer sit back and hope someone else will do it for us.
To begin with, write your State Senators and Assemblypersons whenever a bill has been proposed that would or could effect changes. Let them know how you feel. We have hidden behind closed doors for far too long.
I cannot speak for other states, but NY State Dept. of Corrections is becoming more family oriented, finally willing to listen to us, finally seeing us a real people. Our present state administration too seems more aware of the problems and are making attempts to rectify unfair laws, looking at Merit Time to get some out of prison earlier, seeking reform in our severely broken Justice System, and more.
Again, WE can affect change, it is often slow, but we can bring it abolut just as we did by getting the NYS Dept of Corrections 57.7% kickback on our prison phone calls removed, and had legislation passed so it could never happen again.
I said this before and will say it again. One voice can be ignored, two voices become a whisper, several voices a noise, and many voices become a ROAR. Let's become that ROAR and make our presence known.