I haven't been on in a long time and after the meltdown we had last weekend I realized how much I need the support of others in my same situation. After another rough night of not listening and acting out I resorted to spanking my son which he made a much bigger ordeal by screaming and fighting me. I gave him his spankings calmly and after he was crying and we were both sitting on the floor and I asked why we keep doing this and making these choices and he screamed at me with such conviction "BECUASE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE ME!!!" It was awful to hear this come from my just barely 7 year old child who I know has been through so much. I cried with him and pulled him up onto my lap and I realized I had a failed him in that moment. I have never felt such pain in my heart, it was a kick to the gut to have your child crying and looking to you and feeling so utterly lost. I don't know what it is like to be him, I know it is so hard for him, I just don't how I can do to fix it and make his life easier. He has been kicked out of 2 daycares, and we are currently on contract at our current daycare if he gets in trouble one more time we have to leave. He does well on his medications and goes to behavior therapy twice a month. How as parents can we teach kids with this disability to make better choices, how much can we excuse because it is out of the realm of their control, how can we reach them so other kids do want to play with them and parents don't look at them as "bad kids".
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