In July of 2008 I discovered my son was shooting up heroin. I guess I was lucky because I was able to see it relatively quickly. My son was honorably discharged after four years of service in the Navy and with-in a year he was on heroin. According to my calculations he was probably using one form of opiates or another for six months. I was heart broken and so scared. I gave him a choice - I would have him involuntary committed (he wasn't sure if I could do it or not - I work with a number of lawyers and judges and police in the course of my normal job - also with addicts - so I have a relationship with a number of them which made him not so sure the law would be on his side) or he could move in with me - detox - and rejoin the service. He choose to rejoin. He detoxed - relapsed - and detoxed again and by November 24 2008 - that was the longest five months of my life! His first deployment was to Uganda and that seemed to give him time to sort himself out but I still worry a lot. He looks so good - and sometimes he says some things that seems like he really gets it and is getting healthy. He has paid off all his debt and really seems to be doing good - like he is on the right track. My problem is that on his first visit home I am so afraid that he will screw up that I am ruining our relationship by acting like he is a five year old - which is so out of character for me - I want to know who he is talking to - where he is going - what time he will be back. He has been home for three days and I feel bad for him - he has come such a long way and I am treating him different then I every have - he is a big boy and is taking care of his business - if he relapse its his choice and I wont stop him if I know who he is with or not. How do I overcome this?