My son is at the half way mark I guess you can say. He called today and spoke to my husband. Didn't go well. He was talking about the sober living. My husband had told him when he was done with the treatment center he has to look into the Sober living. C said he needed money to start off with. He doesn't have a dime. Then he talked about his car (which he pretty much wrecked before he left) and that he would be better off home. Going to college, getting a job etc. My husband told him that ship sailed. "We gave you a home, you had a car, food to eat, and were on track for school, but you blew it". C got really angry and told my husband tell Mom I love her and you go $#@ yourself. C is not taking the medication the psychiatrist prescribed. My husband said he has the same arrogance he had before he left (although he is sober). My son has mental problems that need to be addressed. One one hand C says he is there voluntarily, next he says he only doing so it looks good when he has to face the fallout from the citations and accidents he had right before he left. I am not sure how all this sober living stuff works. At 18 are we turning our backs on him? My husband said he is done. He cannot live like this anymore. That he is ready the throw C out of his life. Where is the line. When is it not o.k. to do that. I hated it when he was home, but he is still my son. What is the next step. Please can some one walk us through this.
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