We were having a discussion in the family section, but I wanted to say something here. Last night Gary mentioned his molestation as a child and him using that as an excuse to use drugs. I told him that many people did that same thing, that he shouldn't blame himself for that, he should just work on it. It is really my fault anyway,and I will write him tonight and tell him. He was fine until around the age of 14. He had written a poem in school that was obviously about the man who molested him. His teacher bragged about what a great poem it was, and I thought it was good therapy that he had written it. I feel so stupid now. I should have done something. About a year later we found pot in his room. I felt so secure in my mothering skills,and in him that I assumed he would be ok. I was also preoccupied with my husband's mental illness. There is alot of addiction in our family, so maybe intervening at that time wouldn't have mattered, but it may have, and I wish I had done so. I also trusted the cops too much. They said since it happened once and Gary told me, and the guy went to jail that he would be ok. Don't get me wrong, I'm not beating myself up. I think that with the information I had I did the best I could. I'm just saying I wish things could have been different. I wish I had had DS.
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