I was having a tough time figuring out how to go about my victim impact statement. I talked with Kaitlynsmom and she really helped me. Speak from the heart. Really make sure they know how you feel and how all of your lives have changed because of all this. Like for me it is very tough because he was my father in law, the girls' grandfather and by betraying all of our trust we now have a very hard time looking at anyone with out wondering if they have skeleton's in their closets. He was someone my husband knew all his life and didn't know the truth, his brothers and sisters didn't know he could ever do something so horrible so if a very close family member can be a child rapist then what other people in our lives might be holding the same secret. I worry everytime I leave my girls with any family member now even though I know in my heart they wouldn't hurt them. How are my girls supposed to trust my friends who are male. Lots of questions and very few answers, things we won't know for years to come and may spend the rest of our lives waiting for that shoe to drop. I haven't written mine yet and I think I am more afraid that I won't come across right or can't get out my true feelings. But I do think that the victim impact statement is a good chance for some healing. As I have always said, the more you talk about it the easier it gets. Sometimes just writing your feelings down helps bring things into prospective. Anyone have anything to add?
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