How old are said tweens? If the friends are insisting then he/she proabably doesn't know what to say to them. I would call the parents to find out if they really know what is being given away. Also to verify that it is coming from there. i am not trying to judge your kids but it could be also that they are lifting it from places and saying their friends gave it to them. It is a wierd age where they don't have money but want everything their friends have.

That's true, thanx 4 the advise, makes a lot of sense..I'll look up into it.

Any1 else is going through this sort of stuff ?

I would also call the parents just to be sure. The little girl down the street was bringing things home after playing with my son, but they were not given to her. She was telling her mom that my son had given her these things. She took one of his scooters, 2 Nintendo DS games, 1 Gameboy Advanced game, a video, a handheld game. a little garbage can band full of change, and s few other things. Some of them shel told her mother had been given to her and some of them she just hid. Once I figured out what was going on, I went down and talked to her mother and boy was she surprised and embarrassed. Needless to say, she is not allowed in my house anymore.
My son has brought home clothes that a friend of his gave him and a couple other things that were garbage. I had him take them back because I didn't want to have to pay to take them to the dump (one of them was a broken bike that was too big for the garbage can). I told him to stop taking things without asking us first.

She brings this stuff from school, so i hv no idea who they r or their parents number.

I had this same problem from my daughter, when she was around 11 I think.

As it turned out, she was actually stealing. (we had the suspicion all along)

So, when she came home with a PSP that her "friend let her borrow", this is what I did:

I went up to the school the next morning, brought the PSP with me, and asked the teacher if I could address the class. I asked the class which friend let Kate borrow this PSP (because Kate wouldn't tell me which "friend") it was.

So a little boy stood up and said that his PSP was stolen from his bookbag the day before. He went on to tell me exactly which game was in it at the time that it was stolen, so this is how i knew it really was his. The teacher verified that the boy had reported it stolen, to her and to the office staff.

Finally my daughter admitted that she took it because she was jealous that we didn't buy her one. So...she wrote "I will not steal" on the blackboard like 500 times.

It was very humiliating for her...but that was 2 years ago, and she's never come home with something that doesn't belong to her since then.

Hmmm...this may be a lot more serious than i think. So far she brought a cute lil' pink cell phone. I will ask her about it today..again. Just 2 be on the safe side.

I CALLED & MOM SAID SHE HAD NO IDEA HER DAUGHTER HD GIVEN IT AWAY, BUT SHE SAID IT WAS OK THAT MY DAUGHTER KEEPS IT, SO THAT'S IT 4 THAT..HER MOM THANKED ME 4 CALLING CUZ NEXT TIME IT COULD BE SOMETHING ELSE. SO THEY WILL BE HAVING A CONVERSATION ABOUT THAT TONIGHT :-? MY DAUGHTER IS NOT HAPPY FOR CALLING., BUT I'M THE PARENT, SO I MUST DO WHAT I GOT 2 DO :) THANX YA' 4 HELPING ME W/ THIS ISSUE.

My son had brought home $5 one day and said he found it. He was told to turn it in to the office, but since I wasn't there that week it was overlooked.
Another day it was $35, and after asking him to tell me the location where it was found, I turned around to turn it in to the office. My son is usually very, very honest but it ends up he wasn't being honest this time and another kid had given it to him.
This was a matter for the teacher to handle because it happened at the school and the teacher has the ablity to get together with the other student and parents. I went straight to her classroom and while he sat outside I told her what I knew. Then he came in and she asked a few questions.

In this case the other child was in a different class so it now involved tow teachers, but after talking with the kid and the parent it ends up the kid told his mom he needed it for school because he owed it to someone and she gave it to him no questions asked.
He had made a bet with my son... I bet you 20 bucks i can pick you up. I bet you ten I can tackle you down to the ground... etc. My son told him he didn't have money to bet, but the kid kept his end of the bet. (pretty honest for a 10yr old betting at school!)

If something like this is happening at school go to the teacher. He/she knows the students in the school and can probably get answers you can't. Not to mention having the phone numbers to parents available.

I never jump to presuming the worst. I always give my son the benefit of the doubt, and in this case three things happened...
He knew I trusted him, because I never presumed anything.
He knew I would do the right thing even when that money could have come in handy.
We had a talk about how these little lies are LIES plain and simple and they start to break that trust I have always had for such and honest kid.

I did on the other hand think the worst about the boy who brought the money, but I was happy to know the teacher returned the money to the mom and it restored my faith in this boy a little to know he didn't swipe it.

THANK UUU, I WILL DEFINITELY..KEEP THAT IN MIND :)