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I don't use them, have never even. A little paranoid about the toxic shock syndrome. My daughter yesterday had a class on puberty and came home with questions. She still hasn't started her period (I was 15 and my mother was 9 so I have no idea when this will happen). She told me that her teacher said most mother's will not let their daughters where tampons until they are older. MY question is "Can a tampon (pardon the word usage) pop the cherry?" If so I do not want her to use tampons until she has sex (Oh boy did I write that? I dread that time too) any help would be greatly appreciative.
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I think that most parents feel that talking to their kids will somehow make them WANT to experiment.
I think that using a tampon or not should be the least of our worries. The biggest thing we should teach is not to leave them in for more then 4 hours and to alternate with pads. Maybe only use them swimming.
I hope this helps.
I started using tampons when I was 15 because I was on the swim team. Our family goes swimming a lot so my daughters have used tampons. The 15 y/o is fine with them. The 14 y/o chooses to sit out and read a book instead of using tampons.
We talked with our pediatrician and he explained to them about TSS and STD's.
I feel virginity is more a state of mind rather than if her hymen is in place.