Yesterday I really hurt my BF feelings. She has a 13 yr old son named Aaron and he is her only child. Her and her husband divorced a little over 2 yrs ago. The problem that I have is that every time Aaron does something to one of my kids or does something bad in my house...she always makes excuses for him, but never holds him accountable. The other day I we were going to get home too late to take our dog out to potty (we do this for each other on occasion)and I asked Aaron if he would take him out right away so he didn't have an accident. Well, he remembered a couple hours later (typical) and by then he had had a #2 accident on the tile right inside the front door. He called to let me know about it and I asked him if he stepped in it. He said no. So, I told him to leave it and we would clean it up when we got home, because he always does an awful job doing ANYTHING. Anyway, as soon as I got home I could see that he had slipped in it...then scrapped it off on my carpeted first step and walked all the way across my living room. I was so angry I could not see straight!! One because he didn't have enough respect for our home to take his shoe off after he relaized he stepped in dog poo and also because he lied. When I spoke to my friend about it...she said that he lied because he didn't want to disappoint me and that he has a hard time with disappointment, but he received no punishment. So, yes, I was alittle angry with her. This child is the lazyiest child I have ever seen. You can tell that he does everything haf-way, becasue he knows that she will go behind and do it for him. Anytime that he screws something up.. he plays the dumb card and says...oh I didn't know and my friend totally buys it! My issue is that I told her how I felt after this and I told her that she never wants to discipline Aaron, because she is afraid that he will want to live with his Dad and her Ex doesn't because he wants to be the fun parent. She agreed, but still took no action. I am having a harder and harder time being around Aaron now. I love my friend dearly. We have been best friends for 12yrs, but I just don't think that I can continue to be around his bad behavior and her endless excuses. it's too frustrating, but I don't want to lose her friendship. Any Ideas??
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