and it gets me into trouble. I want to make my son happy and that is why I have a hard time saying no. He asks me if his friend can come over everyday he goes to school and I have to say no because I want to get going on homework and we need to relax and we can't with a friend over. I was going to try to do this today like I have done in the past but my daughter when I have done this has gotten upset because her privacy goes out the window when someone comes over. She has a headache, she wants to do her homework and she wants to relax in front of the t.v. in her pajamas and she feels she can't when someone is here. I feel awful saying no to my son but at the same time I need to respect myself and my daughter and how we feel. This is becoming a tangle as I feel I am disappointing my son and his friends. My daughter said can he go to his friend's house because we can't do it today and my son asked his friend and his friend said no because his parents are not home and he can't do that as they work. His friend's have no problem saying no and they have a better excuse. It seems as if I am tired or we want to do our homework is not a good enough excuse. I already told him I did not want to do this this morning and to please not ask me if a friend can come over but he did it again when he called me on his cell phone from school. I told him this morning and this weekend that he could have a friend over this Friday as we have nothing to do on this day, and we will be prepared for this but everyday this is hard and it seems this is what my son wants. I just find this whole thing really hard and very upsetting as I don't want to hurt anyone, I feel like I am hurting my son and his friends. Is there something you can say to help me with this.? Thank you in advance for your help with this.
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