I am so upset right now - NOT at my daughter, but at myself... My smart, healthy, sweet little girl just wet her bed for the first time in over 8 years. I have a new baby (8 weeks on Monday) and divorced from her dad (he is 3 hours away and she sees him regularly). The divorce is nothing new... We have been apart since before she could walk and living in a different city for over 3 year. I feel like I am being too hard on her or causing her stress. She is always so good, but DOES NOT listen, which often gets her in trouble. We don't actually do anything but express our disappointment and threaten grounding or a reduction in her weekly allowance. i.e. She will leave 13 lights on in the morning when she leaves for school after being reminded to turn them off all the time. She put dirty dishes away after being told to do her chores (dishes) 3 X last night (there were only a few dishes be done, so it isn't like I am asking much and we give her $5.00 per week, which I think is a great allowance. I asked her what is wrong and she says she feels stressed out and that she is not doing "good enough." She also said she misses her dad. My husband's parents came in from NY this weekend, which is normally his weekend, so she asked him to stay here this weekend because she enjoys seeing them. She really wants to learn to use a sewing machine, so that is on the agenda tomorrow - going to buy her a sewing machine. I own my own business, so I am always home before and after school, so it isn't like I am not around. I don't know what else to do. She and I are VERY close, but lately I feel distant from her. I think she is going to start her period soon and may be stressed about that too. Do you think she needs counseling or do I???
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