I have an 11 year old girl with my ex-husband. About 3 years ago, he met a woman who had 2 kids of her own. They were together about a year before the relationship did not work out. However, my daughter grew an attachment to the woman and her two children. She considers the 12 year old girl her best friend but they interact more like sisters - spending time with each other every day and sharing everything. Anyway, the woman recently got involved with a "bad guy". I took her kids from her one night because the new guy was verbally abusive and threatening to her kids and my daughter. The police and Social Services became involved and currently the kids are staying with an aunt. Unfortunately, the mother just signed over a Power of Attorney to the aunt without any argument at all. With that solution, the State has closed the file. Since there was no formal removal from the home with the State taking over, the aunt is not entitled to supplemental income for the kids. The financial burden has become too much for her since she has 2 kids of her own and her husband is sole provider for their family. As a result, she asked the little girl's biological father for financial help and he responded by filing for physical custody. The child's aunt informed me this morning that the child will be moving with her father this weekend. His attorney suggested he have physical custody of the girl so they can file an emergency order until a permanent order hearing can take place. Of course, this is all being done without notice to the child's mother. The only reason I have been informed is because the attorney has requested my daughter give a statement regarding the verbal assault. They cannot ask her without my permission and they want to give me a "heads up" and time to think about it. That alone is nerve wracking and I am not sure my girl will want to do it. Beyond that, since they are planning to take her away without anyone knowing, the girls will not get a chance to say goodbye to each other. I asked if we could schedule a private meeting between the girls before the move takes place and was informed we could not because they do not want my daughter to slip up and say something, which would give wind of the plan to the mother. My daughter is already heartbroken about the current situation. I don't know how to make the friendship ending so abruptly any easier, suggestions would be helpful.
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