Ok some of you read my last thread, I am married, both my spouse and I have children from previous marriages. We will call the two we are having a problem with A and the other one B. A has a problem with wanting to aggravate anyone that will allow A to get under their skin. I think A fits the description 'negative attention is better than no attention' scenario. A is usually trying to provoak the other children into a dispute by getting in their faces, pushing, poking, blowing in the face or ears, making comments like crybaby or grouchy(even if the other person is just sitting there saying or doing nothing) but lately A has started focusing more on B. I have been trying to get B to be the more mature one and walk away or ignore A. B has been using this advice and it seems to be somewhat working except the children participate in a group together outside of the house and when no one is looking A is constantly poking or pinching B. A has a problem with other children outside the household too. A will make friends, play with them a few times and then all of sudden they are not friends anymore. A is a very onsided child, it is A's way or not at all, even when it comes to playing. We have tried talking to A about this behavior, trying to get A to see that this is why friends stop coming over or calling but A does not seem to get that, A wants to blame it on everyone else. We have tried to get A to see that it cannot always be everyone else, that A needs to evaluate what A is doing to see if that lead to the loss of the friendship. It is not just kids that this behavior takes place around, A does this to adults too. A gets in peoples faces and says off the wall things to try and get a reaction. I have tried ignoring the bad behavior also and for myself it seems to have gotten a little better also but for children ignoring is a hard thing to do even though I think B has been handeling it very well, I do not want B to be building up negativity towards A and then all of a sudden cannot take any more and explodes. Has anyone gone through this and can give some suggestions on how to redirect this behavior? A is a teen so I know some is just kids being kids and seeing what they can get away with but enough is enough.
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