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Temper Tanties

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My youngest is 16 months and is very good at throwing a temper tantrum. He will hit or head bang, use any toy or anything he is holding, scream and go red in the face. If I say 'no' he will repeat it over and over. If I put him in his cot he will continue to scream and carry on for a time.

I can't put him in time out as there's no way he would sit still, being this young.

Most of the time he is fine, but he seems to chuck these tanties several times a day - every time I say 'no' to him for something he wants to do.

I know it is a stage that he will eventually grow out of, but does anyone have any ideas to get through this??
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Sometimes ignoring my daughter helped - I would make sure she is safe, say no and walk away. I try to keep in mind (like you said) that this is just where she is developmentally and that she's learning about how she can't have what she wants, can't do what she wants, and needs to learn. I would rather discipline now rather than deal with a spoiled teenager later. Seriously, I think of this each time! :)
My daughter wouldn't do the "naughty spot" until about 22 months old. If she does get up, I pick her up, set her back down and say nothing. If I have to do this constantly the 2 minutes she's to sit there, I say nothing. When I set her down I say why she's in trouble. When I get her when the 2 minutes are up, I get at eye level, tell her why she's there, and ask her to apologize if necessary.
Not sure if this helps. I think when my daughter was you son's age, I would basically say no and ignore her.
I do wish you all the best!!! I know this is such a trying time! Hugs!!
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Not sure how anyone feels about this, but when they are this young, I like to just take them out of the situation all together and start a new positive interaction. Like if my daughter throws herself down and goes to repeat something I have told her no to, I will pick her up and sit to read her a book or hand her something else to do. She forgets what she was complaining about and starts to interact with the new toy or book. It can take time, and if you are in the middle of something it can be a pain, but I find it better than going on and on with her and getting upset. Until she REALLY understands what I am saying, this works for us.
CASMIRA
CASMIRA
Well we have the drama queen and the one in training right behind her so we have to be careful to be consistent with one so the other can hopefully fall in line but what I do and it seems to work is when the oldest goes into her OH MY GOSH THE WORLD IS GOING TO END tantrum and it has gone to that far enough stage I ......make sure she is safe and then look her in the eyes (they do watch your reaction...it's a test) and let her know "Let me know when you are finished." and walk away.....it helps a lot and she usually gets up and walks after me crying then simmering down and I quickly get her on a new topic...wanna see Elmo...want some juice/water...play a game...whatever works!! Good Luck!
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