I have a new boyfriend and he's caucasian, because of two different race we also have different values and opinions when it comes to parenting. I am a young single mother and would like to learn about parenting a toddler. I wanted to be a cool mom to my daughter if she grows up. I don't think my girl is really that bad. At the age of 3 she learned how to go to the washroom be herself and she knows her manners now. She still needs to practice manners everyday though. When she wants somethings she'll whines but after I explained to her that she can't have everything she wants she'll listen. When we're outside when I tell her to behave she'll behave...she listens. But I don't know why my boyfriend doesn't think that way. He thinks she's a brat. She whines too much. I realized that it's too early for me to involve him in our lives. He taught my girl how to potty train, say manners and sleep by herself in her own room. But sometimes she wants to cuddle. For me, I think that's cute that she wants to cuddle with me and I wanna cuddle her as much as I can because I know that when she grows up she won't cuddle me anymore because she'll get embarrass. He said that she's not a baby anymore. I know that but I also know that toddlers need some attention. Whether they're big babies and know to talk and do a lot of things but still attention especially from the mothers. Do you think she's a spoiled brat? Do you think that my boyfriend's point of view of being independent is the right way in parenting toddlers?? He wants my daughter to be so independent because that's how he'd been brought up. Everytime she whines He yells at her. Or if she did something wrong he puts her to time out right away. For me, I give her 3 chances and after that that's the time I will punish her, stand in the corner or make her kneel down. He thinks I'm not a good mother. This is how I've been brought up. I am also fair to her. I don't swear, and If I make a mess I let her know that it's my mess so I'll clean it up and if she does it too she needs to clean up her own mess. Is what I'm doing wrong. I'm confused between two different values. Help!
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