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so heres my problem ok i have a 2 1/2 year old and he is a very angry child he will lash out at scream at me no matter what i say or do my therapist suggested i have him tested but i think its too early to tell i know his behavior isnt normal for his age but i dont know what else to do he is always so angry and since he is an only child and my first i am afraid labeling him now will only make things worse i dont know what to do can u suggest anything that may help he cannot go to daycare because he is hurtful to the other kids and the kids he is supposed to be interacting with he wont he just plays in the corner by himself what should i do....
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Have you made any connection between the onset of his anger and any environmental issues... such as changes in your relationship with his dad, exposure to anger and violence of others, etc...?
What do you do to discipline him? I know that the challenge of finding an effective discipline approach can be daunting, especially when we are already in the throes of dysfunction. SO let me suggest two wonderful resources which may help you.
1,2,3 magic by dr. phelan. this book is great if you do what it says TO do and don't do what it says NOT to do. Its more than just counting and time out, but you have to be consistant, and really heed what he says about your own emotional responses and withholding 'talk'... check it out, it even works with children with learning disabilities and ADD... its a behavioral modification approach which is geared at ages 2-12, but the earlier its put into play, the better, for obvious reasons... habits of reactivity become more ingrained over time... so don't procrastinate.
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Scream free parenting by runkel. and this title can be deceiving, as the book is NOT geared to people who raise their voices, its about modelling self control, and the different ways which we undermine and frustrate our discipline by trying to control the kids rather than by guiding them into better choices. Its also about the power that we give them when we overreact or when we let ourselves be pulled off balance by their behavior. A priceless book for any parent, regardless of the challenges. Honestly, I think its a good resources with wives whose only child is the one they married, too, lol, but I digress.
I totally understand the desire to not get into the label game...
and I agree that sometimes food allergies can be amazingly underestimated and underdiagnosed, especially when it is more of a sensitivity to something which impacts behavior as opposed to a full blown allergy that manifests with obvious physical symptoms. Even it is is a food allergy or other organic issue, the books I mentioned will still be great assets!
not "even it is is" but
EVEN IF IT IS...
This is a trying time for us mothers and don't forget to get your time and things you need for you in order to help you stay calm and patient through these challenging stages.