Parenting Toddlers (1-3) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of toddlers (1 to 3 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development. Join to share your stories and get advice.
For the past two weeks, my 2 year old daughter has become completly intolerable. She cries ALL DAY. She has now started taking out her frustrations on her little brother. She has also been breaking out in a rash on her lower half, from her waist down, and I am beginning to think that it may be her nerves. I cant get her to go to bed at night, she comes to the door 20-30 times saying "Mama, Hey Mama, where are you Mama, I dont see you." Those same little words that used to make my heart melt sound like nails on a chalkboard now. I dont know what to do with her. She is so unhappy all of the time. Last night when I put her to bed the 15th time she sat there and looked at me and said "I been mad all day." AND SHE HAS! Anyone else had the rash issue with their child? Could it be caused by stress? What in the world is causing her stress? Stress for a 2 year old is different than that for a 24 year old.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Really, toddlers have so few ways to express themselves still (even though they now have language, they still often don't know how to express exactly what they are feeling and they are still totally self-focused) and they have almost no real self-control yet. Constant information overload and inability to fully express oneself is a pretty big stressor! You being able to keep your composure is really the most important thing, and believe me I am mostly a horrible example of this (and I REALLY know what you mean about the "mommy, mommy, mommy" thing!) but I have found that when I can take a breath, step away and remain somewhat loving but low-key and a little detached, it helps bring down the hysteria level.
Hang in there - you are a good parent and I promise that this too will pass!
Bedtime/sleeping issues can be very difficult. I swear I didn't get any REM sleep until my son was over a year. The one thing I learned is that consistency is key. Whatever routine you choose, you have to stick to it. While it is heartbreaking to hear your little one call for you, it is in everybody's best interest to be well-rested.
You are doing your best. Hang in there!
Let me think about the other part to your problem- it's late and my brain has stopped working... >.
I agree with the pp about your kids picking up on your moods. I have 3 under 3 and the eldest has become a horror to be around sometimes...she yells,calls her sister stupid and tells us that we aren't her mommy and daddy any more. She also has taken to throwing things. I have NO idea where she gets this from, couldn't be because I've reached my breaking point and she's emulating me.
You need some "me" time to destress and then maybe your DD will be less stressful. You have my sympathies, I know EXACTLY what you are going through. It's hard for the little ones to communicate what is frustrating them, but also be assured that this is also age appropriate for them.
Hang in there, it gets easier.
Maggie