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I have to as a question...

deleted_user
deleted_user
... before I ever post in here.

I have been looking at different forums for parents, and I never found on to post in.

All of the ones I've found have a common thing in common that I dislike. It seems if a person disagrees with the popular opinion, that person seems to get ganged up on. All the forums I've seen states that different opinions are welcomed and all that good stuff, but when it actually happens... it isn't that way at all.

I know opinions about parenting are very strong in most cases, and ppl are usually passionate about them. I just worry that if I have a different opinion about something, things will go down hill.

To be honest I've seen a thread in here already that was well on that path... is this a normal thing? Can I disagree with popular opinion and be able to express why?
DLR77
DLR77
Hi there,

I would say that anywhere you go, as you mentioned, when it has to do with parenting and differing styles, you will always face some sorts of clashes in opinion. While some are adept at voicing their disagreement in a manner that is non-pejorative, there are others that are a bit more blunt and taken as rude, even if they are not exactly trying to be that way. Reading someone's opinions makes it sometimes difficult to 'hear' the tone in which they are speaking. While someone might well-meaning, their words could be perceived as rude.
Then, of course there are some that are purposely and outrightly rude. Or threaten.

Since this, as well as any internet forum is a sampling of the population, you are going to be faced with a little bit of everything.

It shouldn't discourage you from stating your opinion. You might have to defend it, but then that should just add to the discussion and make for a more valid argument.

But all in all, this community and Daily Strength collectively are very supportive internet environments and for the most part, most people try to be respectful of one another.

I look forward to hearing your comments and opinions!
Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm the one that DLR is referring to as one of the blunt, untactful persons. If you voice your opinion and I highly disagree with you, I'll let you know. Most of the time I try not to be rude, but in the same turn, I don't like to sugarcoat things and don't always have a lot of time to post a reply because I'm under attack by my 3 little monsters.

I hope that people like me don't scare you from posting. I do like to hear different opinions on things even though the tone of some of my replies don't make it seem that way.

Naggie
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm the one that DLR is referring to as one of the blunt, untactful persons. If you voice your opinion and I highly disagree with you, I'll let you know. Most of the time I try not to be rude, but in the same turn, I don't like to sugarcoat things and don't always have a lot of time to post a reply because I'm under attack by my 3 little monsters.

I hope that people like me don't scare you from posting. I do like to hear different opinions on things even though the tone of some of my replies don't make it seem that way.

Naggie
deleted_user
deleted_user
DURHHHH

I signed my name NAGGIE....I meant Maggie...but I guess if you ask DH it would be the former

LOL
DLR77
DLR77
LMAO...

Naggie....
I thought you did that on purpose.

I weren't referring to you at all...

I was actually thinking of my own responses in the past that could have been misconstrued as mean-spirited (though, knowing me, they probably were...)
deleted_user
deleted_user
That all sounds fair :) I was debating even putting this question out there because I didn't want to be seen as "uh-oh.. here is a trouble maker".

Thanks for replying, I do appreciate it :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
LOL You don't need to fear that...after all, trouble making is fun sometimes....but, I don't think that you were stirring the pot.

If you were I'd let you know! And if someone gives you any crap, sling it right back
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'll be honest and say that I am opinionated on certain issues. I do my best to not be rude or make it personal. I think that is the approach of most people here on DS. I have found this to be a very supportive community and love the time that I spend here. I hope that you will find it the same. Remember that we cannot always agree but reading other peoples thoughts gives us a chance to grow and consider new ideas.
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