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How can I help my young sister be a better mother?

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My baby sister stayed 3 nights with me this week and she just about drove me and my husband crazy.She has a 16 month old baby girl and a 4 month old baby boy.She is only 18 herself.She gets really upset with the babies,even the 4 month old.She yells and curses at them both and me and my husband both just about went off on her for hitting the little girl.She didn't just spank her,the way she did it I concider abuse.The DCS is already investigating her because her house is always nasty,the kids are never clean and always have dirty diapers on.I can't bare to see them put into foster care and I'm a certified foster parent but I already have alot on my plate.Of course if they are taken I will do what I can for them as I am the only one in the family who could.what I would rather do is help her to do better with them but if you say anything to her she gets very upset.....I fear for these children but I don't want to see them taken away from the family.I love all my 'grandbabies'as all my neices and nephews call me 'mammaw'as I help raise their parents.ifeel like they are more my grandbabies than anything.please help me find a way to help them and her.
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I really feel for you! I'm a grandma, too, and you've been placed in a very precarious position. However...having said that...you absolutely cannot allow yourself to stand by and see those children abused! As a foster parent, you know that. I would use a little tough love here if you can gather the courage and insist your daughter take parenting classes (call your nearest hospital, they can help you find them) and definitely classes on disciplining, as well as self-discipline, or you will call the authorities. This may not be a totally acceptable way in your eyes, but be sure you do something. It breaks my heart to think of children any age being abused. I was a school teacher in special education and saw plenty. Please try to work something out. God bless you, you're in my prayers, and so is your daughter and children.
Beckeroo
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This is my sister but I mostly raised her,so yes in a way she is my daughter.I have 4 sisters and 1 brother that I mostly raised.I know that she loves her children and I know how hard it can be taking care of 2 babies,I've been there that is why I want to help her.
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At all costs you must put the children first. I understand you would want to help your sister. You have to understand you can not help her unless she is willing to admit she has a problem and wants help. Do whatever you must to be sure the kids are safe and cared for.
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