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I know that I have just begun the terrible two stage, but how to a break the temper tantrums? When she gets mad at me she starts hitting me, it doesn't matter where we are. It is so embarrassing when we are out shopping and she does that. Now days you can't disipline them, and if you do someone will go running and say that you are abusive. If she soesn't get her way it is a nightmare. Sometimes if you tell her no you think you would have tried to kill her. She can scream that high pitch scream that makes your blood run cold.
I have to say that 90% of the time she is really good. I sometimes wonder if it is because we are together 24 hours a day seven days a week. Daddy isn't around much, he works horribley long hours, and he is always on call. He is in the oilfield business, and can be gone for long periods of time.
Do you think that it could be the stress of her Daddy not being home, and me being here too much that she thinks that she can act like that. She never attempts to hit her Dad or any one else. I take that back she isn't fond of other 2 year olds. she is an only child and always will be and I don't want her growing up thinking that everything is hers, and that she should be able to do whatever. Any advice on how to handle the behavioral issues with her.
Like I said she is normally a good girl except those few issues. If she doesn't get her way there is hell to pay.
I have to say that 90% of the time she is really good. I sometimes wonder if it is because we are together 24 hours a day seven days a week. Daddy isn't around much, he works horribley long hours, and he is always on call. He is in the oilfield business, and can be gone for long periods of time.
Do you think that it could be the stress of her Daddy not being home, and me being here too much that she thinks that she can act like that. She never attempts to hit her Dad or any one else. I take that back she isn't fond of other 2 year olds. she is an only child and always will be and I don't want her growing up thinking that everything is hers, and that she should be able to do whatever. Any advice on how to handle the behavioral issues with her.
Like I said she is normally a good girl except those few issues. If she doesn't get her way there is hell to pay.
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Have you tried putting her into a bear hug when she starts hitting. So that you hold her arms to her side? Speak quietly in her ear and get used to acknowledging her feelings. I don't think it means much to them now, but it's a good habit. Just an "I know you're upset you can't have the toy, but we can't always have our way" Speaking quietly may get her to stop screaming so she can hear you. At least that's the theory I've read! You may have to just walk away from her at home (hard at stores). We put ours into his crib when he gets into these moods. Just until he calms down. Sometimes I think he needs some decompression time to calm down. As long as she is somewhere safe let her have her tantrum. A friend told me she used to walk out of the room from her child. He followed her once and she walked out again. He wasn't getting a response, so it cut back on the tantrums. At stores, in the long run, it may be easier to leave the store and come back another time. (read the post on Christmas shopping with toddlers)
It's so tempting to hit back, but in the long run it doesn't teach them hitting is wrong.
One of my friends who has very well behaved children. Calls her "time out" the self-control chair. Her 3 year-old sits in the chair, has his tantrum, and then when he's calm he asks her to set the timer and sits for 3 minutes calmly. So the faster he gets control of his emotions the sooner he can get up. I really like this idea and plan on using it when my son is a little older.
Don't worry about her being too spoiled when she grows up. I was a spoiled only child and I grew up into a fine adult.
I try to just ask what's wrong and remain calm. It's so frustrating sometimes and hard to keep my cool but I just ignore it a lot of the times and he will get up, still crying mind you, but he will get up.
I'd love to hear from someone who didn't have a 2 year old terrorist...and then give mine to them lol...just kidding
However they do have their momnets, that are just as precious as can be. My favorite time of day is when it is time for her to go to bed and I lay down with her for a moment. She throughs her arm around my neck and rubs my cheeck with her other hand. SHe is so gentle and loving it melts my heart and makes me forget the days rough times.
Her new favorite thing is to ask for a kiss on the neck (cheeck) and then wipe it off and laugh and say all gone.
There are days that I would love to give her away, but then when she isn't with me for more than an hour I miss her terrribly.
Thanks
Good luck, if you need anythign I am here.
Cheers,
Mia
Any tantrum should be ignored and good beg=haivour should always be recognised. with hitting and biting I have always put it down to empathy training. I make sure she knows it is wrong and hurts her mummy even sometimes a few boo hoos from muma. they are looking for a response, depending on the one you keep giving is whether it will continue. not straight away but they do eventually get the picture if you are consistant.
Good luck and remember it wont last forever and that if you are doing your best as a mummy you are doing the best for her.
Sending hugs and tickles to miss two!
But the few temper tantrums she started to throw at the store, I pulled right out of the cart, put her back in the car and we came home. She kept saying "no shopping?" and I said "not if you act like that." She hasn't done it since, but that was only last week...LOL
It's SOOO wonderful to see I'm not alone going through this! Thank you all for the GREAT advice!