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13 month old and wakes up at 2am every night

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I adopted a baby girl at ten months this past summer, and everynight like clockwork she wakes up crying and screaming until i get her and bring her into my bed. I don't want her to wake up my husband since he is our bread winner and needs his rest. So I just get her quickly to make her stop crying. She slept with her foster mom in guatemala until she was 10mos and we got her, she never before slept in a crib. So the crib she hates. But everynight i make an attempt to get her to sleep in it anyways, and she cries herself to sleep sobbing. It is awful for us. Any suggestions?

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My son is almost 2 and still wakes up in the middle of the night unconsoloable until I put him in bed with us, what I first started doing was letting him fall asleep with me and then moving him to his bed,it works for a short while, I also started laying with him in his bed until he falls asleep,nothing has been 100% effective but he makes it to about 5am these days. I know I'm not too much help but that's as far as I've gotten with the whole thing

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my sons 13 months old and wakes up 2-3 times at night now no matter what.... i have to sleep with him to get him back to sleep i think its a comfort tool they use so they feel safe but really thats all the help i can give you because i still havent found a way to get my son to sleep by him self

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hey i still sleep with my 2 and a half yr old need to find way to get her to sleep in her bed she will play in it but not sleep

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I have 3 children I had a co-beeding with my son. When I had my dd it was the hardest thing to get my son to sleep in his own bed(he was 3 at the time)but I was breastfeeding it was to hard to do with me, my dh,my ds, and my dd all in one bed. So we bought him a toddler bed at first. We let him pick out the blanket he wanted. And we started with the bed in our room so at least he was near me. And we had it worked out that my dd had a feeding at my ds bedtime. So i would "kill 2 birds with 1 stone" and sing to them both any usually within an hour of this he would fall asleep. We did this for about a month and then stopped singing him to sleep and let him fall asleep himself. He was still in our bedroom. A few nights of whining for a few minutes he was asleep and within a week we moved him into his own room. The first 3 nights was hard yes, but every night got easier and easier. And finally after about 2 and half months he was asleep in his own bed and in his own room with no problems. He has a radio in his room that I finally recorded the song that I used to sing on a cassete tape and put it in his radio every night before he went to sleep and to this day he fall asleep with that tape and he is six years old. My dd I started them in a crib. But in our case you didn't get your dd until she was 10 months old and thats what she's used too. So all you need to do in my opinoin is start from the beging and put her crib in your room and just sit by her crib on your bed or in her eye sight and just reassure her your not leaving and that you'll be there when she wakes up. I don't believe in letting them cry it out but there is a diffrence between whining ang crying. If it's just little whimmpers leave her go and just wait and see. It does take time and I'm going to sugar coat it. It is hard and tiering(spelling)but patience and consestence is the key. You can't give up. One minute of giving in can set you back a whole nother week. My dd Emily is 20 months and has never sleep through the night and the only way to get her from screaming and waking my whole house is to hold her. I would pick her up rock her for a few minutes and lay her back down. My advice if you have tried everything and she still is screaming, talk to your ped. it may be night terrors. My son had them very bad. He would wake up every night at the same time and scream. Good luck and keep me posted.

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My duaghter just erased what I had typed....urg! Congrats on the adoption. Changing how your duaghter sleeps/goes to sleep is going to be tough but can be done!!! Make a plan, stick with it and carry it out. The more consistent you are, the shorter time it should take to change things around. Make sure your crib mattress isn't too hard, sleep with the crib sheets so they smell like you before putting them on her crib. Find a lovey for her to sleep with. I love the baby whisperer method to getting kids to learn to self soothe. It's always easier to start earlier in their lives but since that wasn't the case, it's going to take a bit longer but stay with whatever method you choose to take to make the transisiton. SHe was taught that sleeping was with somebody and now you're changing that. It's going to take up to 2 weeks, if you are extremely consistent, to change this. I'd also start on the weekend so everyone can get naps as needed so everyone is not getting overtired. She will learn and will fight at the beginning only because she's mainly frustrated that things are being changed. If she won't even go into her crib without screaming, maybe you will have to put her in there with no intention of her sleeping htere. just playing or reading just to get used to the surroundings. Then move to naptime in her crib, then nighttime. Good luck.

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In my opinion, since she was adopted and your home is relatively new to her, I would wait a bit before you try to "make" her sleep by herself. I would just keep putting her to bed at night in her crib, and let her sleep there until she wakes up, and then let her sleep wherever she feels most comfortable. After a few more months, then maybe you should try to move her into her bed full time. It would probably be best to keep her feeling as secure as possible until she gets used to things in your home. She probably feels a bit unsecure right now, and by you putting her in the bed with you reassures her that you are still there, and you arent going anywhere. I do agree with everyone else on their methods though. I tried everything in the world to get my daughter to sleep in her crib, and ultimatly the Ferber method is what finally worked for her. My son has never slept in our bed, so we never had an issue with him. Good Luck, and CONGRATS on the new baby!
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