My 15 yr old (turned in April) is acting crazy. I was at a school function w/ my younger daughter. She decided to leave to her "friend" two doors down , who was entertaining an unknown amount of kids from 14-17--without a parent. My husband ( i learned later) seen her walk out and didn't ask where she was going. Now my husband is so paranoid about his girls, they aren't even aloud to sit on porch without me present. Well i get a call at the function from the girls mother stating that my daghtr is afraid of my husband and doesn't want to go home. I hear my husband in the background saying I'm not disrespecting you. then the lady goes on to ask my husband if she can take my daughter out to eat w/ her daughter and says the same to me. My husband says yes she hangs up. Then i get another call from my sisiter in law like 15 min later stating my daughter called she is walking around (it's 10 p.m) cause she doesn't have anywhere to go-she lost her house key. As far as i know she is out to eat with this lady and her daughter. I now gotta round up the little one and leave. I'm pissed--he never is involved w/ these kids and when he tries to all hell breaks loose. Apparently my daughter wandered off with some boy and left her key. The girls got the key and left something in my house so helped themselves in and got their stuff. My husband comes upstairs to see two girls running out. He follows and uses profanity what are they doing the girl called her mom who shows up trying to placate my husband--meanwhile my daughter shows up and when told by my husband to get her ass inside says "NO, I'm not going anywhere with you" and stands in the street saying "I'd rather get hit by a car then go with you" telling the girls not to leave her cause he will beat her. My husband has never laid a hand on them. he so doesn't parent them he tries to be there friend. anyway while the lady is talking to him she wanders off. she ends up at her grandmothers, the third call. she is sleeping over there, let them calm down. I'll have her call you tomorrow. I so don't want to deal with it so i say o.k. Now the fourth call from my sister "what's going on some friends came over and are worried cause my daughter ran away from fear of her abusive father, whom apparently beats her on a daily bases." My sister was amused cause she knows what a push over he is. these girls have him wrapped around their finger. I say "no", they ask dad--he overrides me and we argue. well my daughter never talked back before, never walked out without asking before. I think she was drinking or doing something to act like this. She is so not like this. She really doesn't go out-we don't allow it. My husband just started letting her walk around for like an hour with friends ( 2 different girls) or walk to the corner store but times her. I am scared. I now learned that this is the party house. (the kid two doors down.) And the girl is a boozer. I don't know where i went wrong. I now hear that she was so distraught at her grandmothers that she took 6 tylenol and got scared so thru them up. We have alcoholism on both sides of family--my dad is recovering alcoholic--about 15 20 years-cost him his marriage. and my husbands sister brother and dad and himself all fall under this. I need help-don't know where to turn. I feel like i did this--i brought this on--i was too over protective. I just started working when she started h.s and her grades started failing--i blamed it on freshmanitis. i raised her myself--my husband pays bills and that's it--he won't let me give them chores. he isn't talking to her til she apologizes--he taught her never to apologize cause it's admitting guilt. I'm fighting a no win battle. HELP--IS THIS TEEN NONSENSE OR WORSE. I DON'T WANT TO HAVE BLINDERS. I LOVE HER-BUT I KNOW SHE'S NOT AN ANGEL.
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