My kids know that they can come to us with any questions. We have never shamed them about their bodies. We know that both of them have "self-pleasured" only because we do their laundry. And that is ok. My daughter has even said so to me and her mother in private because she thought it makes her either slutty or dirty. We assured her that it isn't and she really gets that it is ok as long as she does it in private. We give her and her brother that open line of communication whenever they need it and we don't judge them. They get positive messages about themselves, their bodies and sexuality...hope this helps.

I'm not a psychologist but I'm taking a psych class. I also have a teenaged son.

My teacher says there is nothing wrong with masturbation. As a matter of fact it is the safest sex you can have. It does not scar you for life even if you do it ten times a day.

You should really try to undiscover your sons puberty its natural and you knowing or showing it could be offensive or embarrassing to him . There are boundaries to everything including that but very few for masturbation as long as its done in privacy then leave it be ...

Dont badger him but let him know he cant shock you with anything he needs to talk to you about. Ask him when hes having his private time to keep the door shut obviously....and let him know youll knock and leave it at that.

I live in a very small home with one hallway and all doors open to that hallway. I walked in my son's OPEN door one evening to find that's what he had been doing. He shuffled real fast and I acted like I saw nothing. The next day we had a talk about closing doors and knocking on closed doors. We've had the talk about knocking on closed doors long ago, but I threw that in to reassure him, if his door is closed I will knock. I also always try to throw in tidbits here and there. When anything about sex is on the news or anytime else it comes up, I always tell him the safest sex is alone. We have great communication between the two of us, and the other posters are right, it's safe, it's healthy and it's normal. Just make sure the door is closed. Not only does it embarass him it'll embarass you more then you can imagine.

Is your son aware that you know that he has been masturbating ? This may make him think that he is doing something wrong, if he is aware of you knowing about this then you should have a brief chat with him and explain to him that it is okay to do it and if he needs to talk about it then you'll always be there to chat.

Joke about with him and make him feel comfortable, what he probably needs is some support and advice when he wants it.

To be honest it is not something you need to know about as it is personal to him, let him make it your business if he has any questions about it but let him ask the questions and you answer them.

It isn't anything to worry about, it is a perfectly natural thing for him to do. I hope this helps and if you do want to talk about this or anything else please do not hesitate to ask me.

Metal.