I am at a loss. My wife and I are raising 4 children. Our 15 year old daughter seems to be older than our 20 year old son. She keeps her 16 year old brother in line for college preperation. My 18 year old daughter works with my wife and tries very hard to help with family expenses. Her and her boyfriend obviously didn't attend sex education in school and now I am going to be a grandfather. That to me is a beautiful thing. My wife was 16 when she got pregnant with our oldest son. We believe that it would be nice to be able to all stay on one property, have a family community. But first we would have to be able to own property. We struggle to even be able to pay rent, that cost more than a mortgage. And any kind of credit we get is always at a very high interest rate. Thats the American way, the poor pay more. I am getting off track here. The reason I searched for a place to vent and maybe see what other people think is my oldest son. He works for temperary agensy's and get a few hours a week doing so. Some weeks he gets a full time pay check. He refuses to give us anything to help with expenses. He says that we are greedy and we are trying to take advantage of him. All we ever ask of him is $200. every 2 weeks. My 18 year old has never missed giving us some money every payday. While it does not cover all of her expenses. I think she is great. She even gives us an extra $25. every payday. And she tries to buy the food and cook at least one meal for the family each payday. But my 20 year old thinks that because he works a couple of hours in a day that he should not have to do any chores let alone cleanup after himself. We ask him for some kind of money but he says he can't give us any money because he has other bills that he has to pay. Then he takes the money and goes out to eat, rent movies and video games. And buy stupid stuff like black fingernail polish to paint his nails. He says that he is on a waiting list to get into job corps but I look here on the floor undernieth the video game machine there is his pre application for job corps still sitting there after 3 and a 1/2 weeks. Luckily I got on his case about that this morning and now he has an appointment with the job corp representitive tomarrow morning. Some prayers please that they except him. I do love my son but at the same time I can't stand him and his cussing out everyone in the family. Telling all of us how lousy we are. Constantly verbally abusing everyone. Always making his little brother and sister serve him and trying to get Momma And myself to do things for him. I am tired of paying for his mistakes, I can't afford that anyway. What I want to ask other parents is am I wrong for wanting to keep this family in tact? Am I wrong for being so mad at my son that I wish him to move out and pay his own way while he still knows everything about everything? I wish he could stand up and be a man and pay his own way, instead of trying to cost us money that we can't afford. Should we quite helping him out of jams he gets himself into? Should we ignor the lies he always seems to have to try and make it someone elses fault everytime? Please let me know what you think. Thank you.
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