I am not new to the site but I am new to the group. So hi everyone! I am the stepmom of a almost 14 year old girl and a 12 year old boy. We also have a 2 year old. Anyways my question/concern would be with the 14 year old. First we only have the 2 older ones every other weekend, they live full time with their crack head mom (and yes she does meth) It has recently come to my attention that she has been smoking. Also she has drank before and supposedly her mom is the one who bought the alcohol. I got this information and some other information by reading her journal which she does not know I read. I felt bad at the time about doing it but with all the things I read now I am at the point of trying to figure out what I can do to help her. She talked numerous times about killing herself in it and about sleeping with any random guy to get pregnant to prove to me that she is a slut. Why would I want her to be a slut or even be having sex for that matter?! I cannot go to her mom with any of this cause well for one she knew about the smoking for a while and when she got caught with a pack in school that is when her mom told her she needed to quit. Great mom I know. Well she has not quit. I don't know if I should sit down and try to talk to her about these things and let her know I read her journal, which is gonna make her mad and she will probably not trust me. I am not sure she trusts me now but that is not the point. I am only 11 years older than her, her dad is 10 years older than me. I used to be the one she came to for a lot of things but as she gets older and her mom just doesn't care what she does, she is getting more and more distant. I just feel like she needs someone that will bring these things up to her and try to help her through things. Sorry this is so long but I would appreciate any advice anyone has. Thanks.
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