My daughter turned 18 3 days ago. She planned a ton of activities for her "celebration". This "celebration" lasted for 3 days. Finally today I told her no more. I told her she could not go out tonight because she has to be at work at 7am. She told me she was going anyways and that by the way I am going to go ahead and move out. She has been threatening this for a year now. About 6 months ago she had a boyfriend that shared an apt with his brother. The boyfriend moved into his own place and got a roommate. They broke up and my daughter and others ended up telling us that he was very controlling (which we had had several talks with Taylor(my daughter) about and that he had hit her several times. I went through the roof. After the break up Taylor could not leave him alone. She was basically "stalking" this guy. He didn't want nothing to do with her anymore because she was a minor and he was scared we were going to press charges on him. She ended up lying to us (nothing new), but then I caught her over at his place when she was not supposed to be there. I lost it and whipped her butt right there in front of the whole complex. That night she took a bunch of pills and wanted to die. After about 5 hours it didn't work and she began to feel sick so she told me what she had done. Thankfully she had taken an "upper" that I had been given to help counteract the side effects of some other meds I had been prescribed. Long story short...she got the charcoal treatment at the hospital and was kept in the adolescent psych ward for a week. Since being out she has been sneaking and seeing this guy again. Apparantly he is still interested..especially now that she is 18. Anyways...she told me and her dad that she is moving in with him. I did not take it so well and told her to get everything out of her room that belonged to her and go. She started bagging up her stuff and I began to give her back some things she has recently given me. She decided to start yelling at me so I grabbed the phone out of her hand. She screamed that I had scratched her so I pushed her. Things got a little more heated, but dad stepped in the middle and told her to just get out...that she had caused enough drama for one day. She's gone now. I don't want her to come back, but I don't want it to be all roses for her either. I know this guy and I know that my daughter does not like to be told what to do. She thought that it is perfectly normal that she is 18 and could live here and do whatever she wanted. She should be ablet to come and go when and where and with whom ever she pleased. She was quickly corrected about that today. We have been telling her that we did not want her to move(before her birthday) but that we would not continue to put up with her lies and disrespect. We said that she would still have rules, but that some leniency would be given cuz of the age. We also told her that she would have one "free pass"...one time of coming back here if things didn't work out. She obviously did not agree. Now I am furious that she has left, just because she did not get her way. I am not sure how to feel or think. Shoudl I be so angry? Should I let her back if she comes back? I just don't know what to think. So sorry for rambling....I am just so upset. I have 3 other children 16, 14, 9 and a baby that belongs to a friend of Taylor's. Basically the mom left him here when he was 5 days old and has had minimal contact since. My 16 and 14 yr olds are Special Needs kids and the 9 yr old has health issues too. Again sorry for rambling, but if you get to the bottom of this (LOL) please let me know what you think.
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