hi I've just had another upsetting moment with my daughter! A bit of background, I've got 3 girls age 12 - 17 and the middle one in particular is giving me a lot of grief. She's 14 and has had a very very tough time last year through no fault of her own, as traumatic as it gets really, but I'm finding the lack of respect so hard. She can be so kind, considerate etc and this is often commented on, but when she isnt she's awful. She is a big girl, very tall and has weight issues. I've tried alsorts to help her, doctors etc, but the last time i tried to speak to her she hit me hard enough to create a lump. she scares me a bit. She mimics me in a nasty voice if I ask her to do something, like just now we have been building her a partition between her and her sister to give them a bit of privacy in their shared room and I had cleaned all her stuff etc yesterday so we could paint it. But when I went in today all her new school clothes are back on the floor, 8 cups and various plates etc. I started to ask her to tidy it it but got the usual god i know what youre going to say, mimics me in a nasty voice, tells me i'm pathetic etc. Two nights ago I left her at home with a friend for a couple of hours and she got vodka and cigarettes and cant see whats wrong with it. she calls me a psycho bitch - anything she can. She has a nice home, we do whatever we can for her, encourage their interets on the rare occasion she has some, live in a nice rural town, I'm a teacher so I have all holidays at home etc. I just don't know what to do - I have had a bad year myself, discovered husband cheated on me on and off for last 10 years, triggered depression etc. trying tyo cope but feel useless at dealing with her. had talks etc but still no better. any ideas? Just for the record, eldest typical teen stuff, youngest very good as yet.
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