
Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
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hi...my oldest is 15...he wants to fight this other kid that has been giving him a really hard time, bullying him and others and treating girls disrespectfully and disrespecting his girlfriend. i don't think my son should fight this time....
last year, he confronted a bully and ended up getting suspended for 10 days, for pushing him....and he got charges pressed on him for disorderly conduct....i watched the video the school had and really, the school and the police were way too harsh on him...
but, he just made the honor roll for the first time, he has tons of friends, is a complete social butterfly and makes good decisions, at least from what i can tell....i just don't think it's worth him fighting this guy this time....
what do you guys think?
last year, he confronted a bully and ended up getting suspended for 10 days, for pushing him....and he got charges pressed on him for disorderly conduct....i watched the video the school had and really, the school and the police were way too harsh on him...
but, he just made the honor roll for the first time, he has tons of friends, is a complete social butterfly and makes good decisions, at least from what i can tell....i just don't think it's worth him fighting this guy this time....
what do you guys think?
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I think you are right, have you explained it to him in the manner you have presented it here? School grounds are not the place for this, things are just so different than when we were kids if he can find the way to be the bigger person he will feel better for it. Though this next part may not be on the upside of public opinion, I do believe if it persists for too long then he should do what he feels he needs to, making sure there are witnesses as well as witnesses to the prior bullying and making sure he DOES NOT throw the first punch. With these things if it does come to an altercation then you have ammo to fight back with if the school becomes to harsh on him again. GL
My daughter (16) was having major problems in one of her classes with some other girls, my daughter chose to take it to her school consular - after a few times of this happening the consular said they would have a word with the teacher. Consular is bound to the privacy just as one that is paid, if it had gotten back to the girls that it came from my daughter and her friend we would have had the right to take legal action... it's not totally stopped but is has lessen quite a bit... it might be another avenue for him... or even his girlfriend, boys can sometimes have 'to much pride' =)
We also sent him to TKD -- started in middle school. It was really helpful in terms of physical outlet; knew he could defend himself; code of honor and respect - -- I think this did help him to maintain control in HS when he just wanted to lay someone out for "just cause".
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
Many Hugz
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sorry for rambling....I do that sometimes