Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
My teen (16 years old)has been drinking and sexually active. She has contracted an STD earlier this year. Thankfully, a curable one. She was at a party at her boyfriend's home where a young man was shot. He died. Her boyfriend was the one who owned the gun. But not the one who shot the man. My daughter still thinks this boy is ok to date. Any advice on trying to get a 16 year old to listen to reason when getting an STD, and witnessing the shooting and death of an 18 year old because of alcohol and drugs doesn't cause her to re-evaluate her lifestyle? I feel so helpless. I can't understand how whe has gone so bad so fast.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Give her info about STD's & how they can effect her in 10 yrs, even 20. No babies or even going thru a hyst & having to take HRT forever.
Like Zigzag mentioned, check into the scared straight program. Are they still around?
Best of luck.
Your daughter may be dealing with underlying depression or anxiety (that should be diagnosed by a therapist) and perhaps she is using the drugs and alcohol to self-medicate.
I encourage you to seek help for her drug use ASAP.
I hope that helps.
I have been down a similar path I am afraid to say. Between the tears and the anger I sought counselling for me first. My son ended up running away and I flew him home from the other side of the country. For my family and my son, there was something more to it all. I began to do a lot of reading I began to understand a little better that there was more to him than I realized. I didn't know him the way I thought. Reckless behaviour that starts suddenly can be a sign of teenage depression. My son turned out to be suicidal which I only found out because he finally opened up to me. All I can say is maybe you go talk to a professional and then try to get your daughter some help to find out what is at the root of it all. Maybe there is nothing and she is just "nuts" as you say :) or maybe something is eating at her heart you don't even know about, and she just doesn't care about herself at this point. Give her a hug and let her know you love her no matter who she is. That is how my son opened up to me, when I just kept hugging him and telling him I love him. (btw he rejected my hugs for a long time)
Good luck