Well I think trying to have a relationship with her would not be genuine and they would see right through it. But I also think that you do need to learn to trust your son's judgement too. Wow.. My son is 15 so goody i get to look foward tothis.. LOL I wish you the best of luck, sorry I don't have anything to offer in the way of advice.

I have to agree, have you heard the saying keep your freinds close and your enemies closer. If you have no relationship with your son and his girlfreind you will not know what is going on in their lives. You have to let your son make his own choices and mistakes. Although you can see that she is no good he has chosen her. if you stay close and it all does go wrong you will be there for him to pick up the peices. Talk to him and tell him you will be there for him whatever. He will always need you. Its hard to watch though when you think that your kids are making mistakes, but you dont have to loose them. Good Luck x

my daughter has a boyfriend who I hate more than anything in the world. He has totally isolated her and cut her off from all of her friends and tried to cut her off from her family. Did I mention how much I hat this guy? I could go on about what this guy has done but I won't. To make a long story short, she knows how I feel about him and she knows that he is not welcome in or near my house or near me or my youngest child. I am very supportive of her in the rest of her life. He is a subject that we don't speak of and we are closer now than we have ever been. I spent years trying to keep her away from him but I lost that battle. All I can do is hope one day she will see him for what he is. but in the meantime I have built a wonderful relationship with her around him. I don't know if this helps.

I think if I find myself in that situation in a couple of years, I'll try to maintain communication with my son and would at least be civil to his girlfriend. If you are civil to her, she can't say anything bad about you to your son. Good luck!

I am in a similar situation. And we have to deal with the fact that our son is 18 and could leave home whenever he wanted to. And we could never see him again if we make too big a deal about it. Plus, it is his life, and he has to make his own mistakes. As much as we would like to, we have to let him.

I would have to agree at this point and bite the bullet. Good luck in finding a path tou a relationship with ur son and grandchild if she is indeed pregnant.As for the girl well I wish u the best she sounds like quite a piece there so....I will leave it there
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Morgaine

I hate my daughter's boyfriend too. There are parts of me that totally blame him for whats become of her. She was an honor student, 3.8 GPA, doing the dual enrolment thing while in High school, etc. Then a year ago she met this creature who both me and my husband detest. He is 21, does not work, does not drive. The more we tried to talk to our daughter, the further she pushed us away. I have posted my story here a few weeks ago. She dropped out of college and has moved out and I feel like I have lost my baby and this boy gets to spend every waking moment with her. I really don't know what the answer is but I think the more we say no to them, the more they do it. I would lay off and be cordial to her. No need to be overly sweet :)...I think our kids need to make mistakes to realise we as parent ARE ALWAYS RIGHT ....LOL

What do parents know anyway? I am a parent of 4, two boys two girls. I have decided that they are the one that has to pick and choose whom it is that they will love. If successful at making a lasting relationship with someone other than their family, they are the ones that would have to live with their boyfriend or girlfriend. This just makes me think of the neighbors. The mother hates her oldest sons girlfriend. You can hear her yell at him stuff like she is a whore, a slut etc. You can hear it in our house. Well this girl hangs out here at our house and is friends with two of my children. The reason that his mother thinks all these bad things about her seems to be because she died her hair pink. Well out of the conversations that my wife, children and I have had with her she is really a very nice girl. As a matter of fact she believes that she should wait until after marrage for sex. Do you think this mother is giving her a fare shake? Maybe she is just judging a book by it's cover.