
Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.

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And I don't care who knows it, or how horrible you may think I am to feel this way. I write this as a cautionary tale to those of you with children who are about to make someone their stepparent. Actually, there's no use since all parents understandable think their children can do no wrong. But I hate my stepdaughter and it's not due to a personal problem I may have; when I describe her behavior (and especially that of her fathers) - acutally, it's unfair that I hate her since it's her fathers' fault that she is a slightly neurotic spoiled brat from hell. But it can't be helped. He uses her against me all the time, and seems to think the job of stepmother is to keep my mouth shut, give her whatever she wants and have no feelings. I feel that it would be so unfair if I had to leave my husband because of her, but the emotional tax is just too high. She is older and will be out of the house soon. Hopefully I can deal with her that long. God, I'm glad I never had children; though I know I would have raised my differently.
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Your right about the fact that its the fathers fault for spoiling her, he may have been over compensating for a failed marriage, or death of his first wife...Also its easier for him to give in than listen to her whine and complain.
Hope you can stick it out til she leaves. 19 tho I was out of the house at 18 ;)
Anyways I wish you well and keep your chin up.
Morgaine
So if you do leave him, it's HIS fault for not doing what he needs to do to nurture your relationship with him.
But enough about me... I would recommend that you ALL go to family counseling. It sounds like you all really need to listen and vent. And perhaps there are more underlying issues that need to be addressed with your step-daughter.
I really hope that you can somehow make it work for all of you.
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Good Luck!
So I know how you feel!
Better you than me!