Hi, I feel so helpless n responsible at the same time. My daughter is now 18 and thinks she doesn't not need family or anyone anymore. Throughout her school, she has scored A's, has been in honors / advanced classes and even did the dual enrolment while she was senior i.e., went to college while still in high school. She had a 3.6 GPA, had a government grant to go to college.

Because she was doing so well inschool, my husband and I gave her my old car so she could get to college, etc. However, since the past few years, she has started lying a lot to us blatantly too. After she graduated high school, we enrolled her full time in college. Of course we paid for the remaining college fees, after the grant, her books and also her car/health insurance based on the fact that she was a full time student. She also started working part time.

But since the past 6 months, she does not come home each night, does not call, and does not go to school. She said she wanted to move out cos we nagged her all the time. I tried to explain to her that we would have to cancel her insurance if she did not go to school, which in turn would mean she could not work. After what I thought was a meaningful chat, she said she defnitely wanted to stay in college and we decided to give her the car for 500 dollars and she would pay her own insurance, etc.

So for the past month she has been paying us a little every week. She had paid us a total of 185 dollars. However, she was still not going to college. So finally, this morning I woke her up and told her to go ahead and give her work 2 weeks notice as I was gonna cancel the car insurance so she would not be able to use the car. When I returned from work I found she had been in my drawer and taken the 185 dollars she'd paid me towards the car, and removed some of her stuff from her room. I called her and she came home within the hour and told me she was leaving. She returned the car keys and said a friend was picking her up. Now she has gone with her stuff in two garbage bags.... I don't know where she is, or anything... My husband says I should let her go and not call her or anything...But I just can't do that...I am really worried about her.... should I call her? Should I try to bring her back home? Or should I just wait till she calls me? It just breaks my heart knowing she is throwing her chance at a good education which we were willing to pay for.