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I don't know how to handle my 15 year old boy. He has always been a little deeper and more complicated than my other kids. but he was a good kid. A year and a half ago he started smoking a lot of pot. he does it every day and by himself. he has been suspended from school 3 times and finally expelled for not attending classes. He is constantly angry or depressed. I haven't seen him smile in months. I am the only person in his life who has stuck by him and who shows him love. His dad has made it clear that he cannot live there. recently he has started yelling and swearing at me and calling me names. He has threatened me and has thrown things at me and today he pushed and hit me. He did not do it hard enough to hurt and I don't think he was trying to hurt me. I think he is trying to vent his frustrations but I don't know what to do. I don't want to call the RCMP because that will just add to his problems. I can't kick him our becasue he has no place to go. I have no support and am having a hard time with this.
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The pot-smoking needs to stop. He is probably self-medicating himself.... he may be suffering from depression and should be diagnosed properly. There are obviously some underlying issues that need to be resolved before your son can feel normal and to be able to function at school and within the family dynamics.
I realize what I am about to tell you is easier said than done but you don't have too many choices right now. First of all, let your son that it is NOT okay to put his hands on you (or anyone else). It's NOT okay to disrespect you. Let him know that you understand he's unhappy and that you're there for him. Encourage him to work WITH you not against you.
I would insist that he stop smoking pot. It'll be hard... but he CAN do it. And if you drug test him once a week, maybe he will wean himself off the pot a lot faster.
Let him know that if he wants to stay in the house, he will need to stop smoking pot, see a doctor who can properly diagnose him and take medication (if it's recommended by the doctor -- that way you're not the "bad guy." He needs rules, boundaries and consequences. If you're patient, yet firm and consistent, I have a feeling that you will start seeing some improvement.
Please keep us posted!