Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
My 13 year old daughter has been seeing a guy (16) for about 1 month now. (I know you may think he's too old and she's too young but she's at the age and I figured if I don't let her, she will only do it behind my back. ) Anyhow....... He used to come over regularly, very polite, he treats my daughter with respect, all around a nice boy. Monday night I found out he's been kicked out of his house, he's on probation (don't know why), he's not in school and he's a regular drug user of Ectasy.
My daughter is so heartbroken. I end up crying because she is crying all the time. It's very sad to see her like this. She is trying to convince me to still be able to see him. She says he is trying to change his live. Apenrently he is also very upset over my decision. For far I've caught them twice sneeking to see each other.
Am I crazy to even be asking what should I do???? Deep down I know I should do the tough love and lock my door until he moves on and finds someone else.
This is the first time something like this happens to me and I'm not sure how to handle it.
My daughter is so heartbroken. I end up crying because she is crying all the time. It's very sad to see her like this. She is trying to convince me to still be able to see him. She says he is trying to change his live. Apenrently he is also very upset over my decision. For far I've caught them twice sneeking to see each other.
Am I crazy to even be asking what should I do???? Deep down I know I should do the tough love and lock my door until he moves on and finds someone else.
This is the first time something like this happens to me and I'm not sure how to handle it.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
Let your daughter know that you understand her feelings for this boy but if he's using drugs, there is no way that ANY parent would let their child hang out with a drug-user.
I know that kids feel like they're never going to find another boy/girl that they like as much and they feel like it's the end of their love-life. I remember feeling that way too! Just be there for your daughter and let her know, there are other fish in the sea (she'll see one day that you were right) and help her find some activities to keep her mind off of him.