Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
I have 2 children of my own and 3 step children.My oldest stepson moved back to Arkansas after living with us for 2 years. My middle stepson moved in this summer and the youngest lives with is mom in Arkansas.
My problem is with my son. He is 16 and has been dating a girl for over a year now. At first I liked her but then things stated to go down hill. She started being verbally abusive to my son. They became sexually active and although she is his first he is not hers. Last Dec. She called me a f***** B**** in my on home. My son did not stand up for me and when I said something to her dad he claimed my son started it. Even after that I forgave her and let her back into my house. She controls everything he does. He was on the swim team but she didn't like that so he quit. She started coming to the house and taking my things like my deodarnt,finger nail polish etc.
In Aug I asked him to start going to counsiling. He went the first time then the next time he wanted his girlfriend to come and I said no. He got mad and she called and yelled at me. He decided to move in with his dad who has had nothing to do with him in two years. Now I don't see him and the only time I talk to him is when I call him.
So here are some questions. Do I stick to my guns and not allow her back in my house since she is rude. Do I allow her back and give her another chance like a fourth chance? She has already said she wants a baby because that means security for her.
I am at my wits end. I miss him so much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Especially anyone who is experiencing this or has already been there.
Thanks Alesha
My problem is with my son. He is 16 and has been dating a girl for over a year now. At first I liked her but then things stated to go down hill. She started being verbally abusive to my son. They became sexually active and although she is his first he is not hers. Last Dec. She called me a f***** B**** in my on home. My son did not stand up for me and when I said something to her dad he claimed my son started it. Even after that I forgave her and let her back into my house. She controls everything he does. He was on the swim team but she didn't like that so he quit. She started coming to the house and taking my things like my deodarnt,finger nail polish etc.
In Aug I asked him to start going to counsiling. He went the first time then the next time he wanted his girlfriend to come and I said no. He got mad and she called and yelled at me. He decided to move in with his dad who has had nothing to do with him in two years. Now I don't see him and the only time I talk to him is when I call him.
So here are some questions. Do I stick to my guns and not allow her back in my house since she is rude. Do I allow her back and give her another chance like a fourth chance? She has already said she wants a baby because that means security for her.
I am at my wits end. I miss him so much. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Especially anyone who is experiencing this or has already been there.
Thanks Alesha
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I wish I had more to offer... that's all I can think of GL in whatever you decide.
Good luck...