wheres her dad? Unfortunaly without any supervision this will most likely happend again. If I were you I would do some serious brain storming so you could be at home when she is at home. Could you move to where you have family and live with a relative to help with finances so you could be home with your daughter?

What was she doing with the boy? If they were just talking, don't give up on her. If they were doing more than that, explain to her why she can't be doing those things. Try to be open with her, and explain your situation to her. Don't just give up on her, she really needs you for support and to be honest with her. Talk to her about birth control. She may just be a little lost, and talking to her ciould set her straight. If you want to talk, please send me a message and I will answer as soon as I can.

A couple of brief suggestions.

Is there an after school club or tutoring program she can get involved with at school -- take the late bus home so there is less unsupervised time?

Is there a girl-friend she can go home with who has a parent present after school? Would 2 girls home alone be better than giving her the run of your home without supervision?

Can she get a volunteer job after school such as working in a day care center at the Y or other program? She would be "needed" and supervised at the same time. The incentive would be that she could make baby sitter contacts and when she's ready to work she would have real experience/references.

Good Luck!!

how about an after school program? lock the house and either pick her up or have her meet you at home when you get there. check with the schools, local churches, etc... you are right to be worried.

this just happened last weekend while I was out shopping. I think the after school program idea is a good one, so is volunteering. Do you attend a church? How about a mother's helper job the reason I asked about church is they are a good place to make contacts. She is a at a good age to be a mother's helper, even some lite babysitting. Giving her some responsibility and a chance to earn money would be great for her and give you a piece of mind. Just talk to her and explain about how it looks to have a boy in your place without parents do not be judgemental just concerned. She may have just been talking of studing. I would call the boy parents as well they probably would like to know also. I understand about having to work and no family around, it is hard make friends with her friend's parents that is a big help to me. You can network and maybe step up after school activities for your dtr as well. You do not have to quit your job or move, with some networking you will come up with some good ideas. Good Luck