I am 24 and married to a great man.. who is in his mid 30's. He has been divorced and has 3 children ages 5, 11 and 15. the 11 yr old boy and 15yr old girl live with us. My two young daughters (ages 2 & 4) also live with us. my step children were brought up horribly, their mother is in jail.. and they were pretty much left to do whatever they pleased because she was doing drugs... that is why my husband took them away from his ex. 5 years ago. He works long days and comes home very tired. Before I came along the place was messy, the kids ate at all hours, left horrible messes took their clothes off and left them where they hit the floor. I am a very patient person, and have brought my two young girls up to understand that they need to respect adults and authority, but also to stand up for themselves. They are so young but already they show me that I can trust them to behave as I have taught them when I am not aroung. My tween step children on the other hand are sneaky and very disrespectful. They continue to do things I have repeatedly asked them not to do. My step-son (he's 11) is more worldly than he should be. I have never met a little boy with such disrespect and vulgar ideas and language. His father does not discipline him as he should and that is becoming a divide between my husband and I. He feels I am complaining more and more about the kids, and it's only because I feel we should work together to come to a common ground for getting these kids somewhat on the right track. My 15yr old step daughter is LAZY as ever and has failed almost every class at school... apparently she did the same thing in middle school and just barley made the graduation to high school. Between daily housework and going back to fix the chores i asked the older ones to do I feel I am brushing the little one's aside. It has only been 3 months... I dont want a lifetime of this chaose.. I dont know how to mold the family as one unit.. and be happy. HELP PLEASE!
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