Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
Hello Everyone,
Tonight I'm writing partly for advise and some peace of mind.
I have a daughter who will be 17 yrs old next month. I have had my share of problems with her, not listening to curfew, cutting school,
she has raised her hands to me, etc, etc.
Most of the problems started in her Jr years last year, when she met a boy over the Summer. she turned into a different person over nite.
Her dad and I are divorced and unfortunely dont see eye to eye, he gives her a curfew of 2 AM in the morning, that is crazy to me, mine was on weekends 12:30 AM. after he realized what he did, he told me dont make waves, just let it be. I felt if she is living with me, she has to listen to rules. When 2 AM turned into 3 AM, it make me crazy.
After everything that has happened my x husband is summons me to court for custody, for her to live with him. She told me friend who she is living with now, she would rather stay with her father.
I dont want to put my daughter threw court hearings, in my heart I wish she would want to stay home, but I was told by so many people let her go with her father, and let him see how she is and see if he can handle her. My lawyer told me that even though she is not a child it's not the decision of the child to make whom she chooses to live with. Does anyone have any advice, because tonight I'm very very sad, thanks for listening.
Tonight I'm writing partly for advise and some peace of mind.
I have a daughter who will be 17 yrs old next month. I have had my share of problems with her, not listening to curfew, cutting school,
she has raised her hands to me, etc, etc.
Most of the problems started in her Jr years last year, when she met a boy over the Summer. she turned into a different person over nite.
Her dad and I are divorced and unfortunely dont see eye to eye, he gives her a curfew of 2 AM in the morning, that is crazy to me, mine was on weekends 12:30 AM. after he realized what he did, he told me dont make waves, just let it be. I felt if she is living with me, she has to listen to rules. When 2 AM turned into 3 AM, it make me crazy.
After everything that has happened my x husband is summons me to court for custody, for her to live with him. She told me friend who she is living with now, she would rather stay with her father.
I dont want to put my daughter threw court hearings, in my heart I wish she would want to stay home, but I was told by so many people let her go with her father, and let him see how she is and see if he can handle her. My lawyer told me that even though she is not a child it's not the decision of the child to make whom she chooses to live with. Does anyone have any advice, because tonight I'm very very sad, thanks for listening.
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Amber, I'm sorry that you are going through so much pain because of this. I know that it is never easy to think of your child leaving home, but it may be the easiest way for your ex to see what you have been dealing with. It's always so easy for the non-custodial parent to say that they would do things differently and have better results, and that the child will get along better, and so on - the perfect fairy tale. Of course, those of us who have custody of the children know that there are no fairy tales, just a lot of hard work. My suggestion would be for you to let her go live with her father rather than go through the legal process, and let him find out how hard it really is to be a parent to a teenager who does not want to follow rules. It's a shame that he didn't discuss this with you first instead of just filing for custody, but in the end, I'm willing to bet that he will ask you to take her back.
Good luck
Morgaine