Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
My exchange student, Theres, is suppose to have an 18th birtday party here, but I have been unable to get it planned. She keeps telling me she doesn't know when she wants to have a party if any. Then she came home last night at 9:00 and wants to have it tomorrow. My house is a wreck, she wants to grill out and would need groceries and cake. My dumb ass said okay, thinking if I felt as good as I did yesterday, I could pull it together. Well, I still have ear infections and sore throat and now no sleep. Had to ask her to reschedule.
I would never let one of my own kids schedule somehting without considering giving me enough notice and thinking about my commitments. It's my desire to please people. Live and learn
No I feel anxious and angry aobut not making her happy.
I would never let one of my own kids schedule somehting without considering giving me enough notice and thinking about my commitments. It's my desire to please people. Live and learn
No I feel anxious and angry aobut not making her happy.
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I have fibromyalgia, neuropathy, spinal degeneration, sciatica problems, diabetes, severe depression, anxiety & agoraphobia. The fibro-fog and anxiety embarrasses me trying to have conversations. I stutter, pause to get sentences out and at times appear drunk from taking meds like gabapaten: which doesn't do a thing for pain--it's been used more as a psych med. I can go days not watching TV or...
You need to realize your limits and never over-extend yourself. Then you need to stand your ground. The way I look at it is that we are no good to those we love and cherish if we don't feel good ourselves. Guilt should never factor in here. From your post you thought you might be okay... but you had a recent ear infection and sore throat. Based on that alone I would have firmly but lovingly explained to Theres that it was too short notice and that you need at least a few days notice to organize and get groceries and make sure that you were feeling up to it (in light of how you were feeling before).
If she is a lovely enough girl for you to want to do something special for her, then she must be a lovely enough girl to understand.
Hope you get to reschedule and enjoy celebrating her, her birthday, her friends and the time she spent with your family.