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Boys sleeping over

deleted_user
deleted_user
I am the evil stepmother ;>), although my 19 year old stepdaughter has no idea how I feel about anything, and I am not allowed to say anything to her, which is fine with me. ANYWAY...she has boys staying in her room with her, which my husband does not like, but he says, "Oh well, she's 19, she's going to do what she wants." (First she snuck boys up there with her, and when I told him @ it he said, "Oh well, she knows I'd be mad at her if she had sex with them so it's OK). She lives in our house, and I told him if he doesn't want her having boys in her bed than tell her not to, it's your house and you're her father! God, he's such a tit!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think you are absolutely right about this. She should not be sneaking boys into the house. I can't believe your husband is not bothered, I know I would be.
deleted_user
deleted_user
What can or should I do about this? I'm only the step after all. But her disrespect irritates the hell out of me. She makes enough money to live on her own, but I don't see her going anywhere if anything goes and daddy pays all the bills. That I cannot have. What to do?
jody0385
jody0385
Here are your options. You either choose to live with it or you don't. This may sound harsh, but it's the truth. YOu can choose to stay and put up with crap like this (the 19year old RUNNING YOUR house) or you can let DAD know in no uncertain terms that if he allows this kind of CRAP to take place in YOUR house (it's YOUR house too) that you will be packing up and leaving PERIOD. Then follow through with it. If he chooses to be the tit that you say and allow his daughter to run that household, then you need to run not walk out of there! IT WILL GET WORSE! Just think when she gets prego who's going to pay for it, who's going to take care of it. Those are your options. It's your choice. We always have choices and options in our lives, though we may not like them.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have to agree with jody , you have a choice and she should not be sneaking boys in her room, no matter how old she is its disrespetful. I would talk with hubby and lay it on the line to him and let him know how you feel and what you would like done about it. And if he doesn't stand up and be a husband and a father then I would leave, its not fair to you how he is letting her take over the house.
many hugs
Morgaine
deleted_user
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Perhaps she needs to be reminded that your home is not a hotel. If she wants to entertain by the hour, there are places she can go, they are called hotels, not Dad's house.
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I agree with you, iwonda.Many teens do this sort of thing -- it doesn't make it right. Allowing her to have a friend, boy or girl, over to visit is reasonable. If there is no extra family room or rec room, I'd allow bedroom with door OPEN, with a parent home of course. You could always pass by for some reason or another.
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