
Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
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My 18 year old daughter is GREAT in many ways. She is a beginning freshman in college, has a part time job, bright, very artistic and creative, no problems with drugs or drinking. BUT....her hygiene is very poor, her room is NASTY, she is having problems in some classes because she puts off assignments till the last minute, she is overweight and getting bigger but doesn't seem to care, she will only wear jeans and black t-shirts, she plays computer games till very late at night. I want her to be healthy and happy. What can I do? Does she need to see a doctor? She says she thinks she has ADD.
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She also plays pc games til bedtime, no worries. I would only worry if they interfere with work,social life, and school.
Hope this helps and I wish u and ur daughter the best.
Hugz
Morgaine
ps where I live at 18 its pretty much their decision if they want help as they are legally an adult.
Good luck, at 18 you are just the "consultant" in their lives! Take Care.
She has nothing like ADD, there is nothing like that ADD ( and I know, I'm a sepcial Education teacher) lables are just excuses to keep any situation as is.
I agree with Morgaine that she needs to work on her self esteem and build her confidence.
There are so many people that are very succesful and they are messy. In EQ assesemtn I do I have a test and can tell whice kid will function better in a messy environment and which one in an orgenised place. When I sit down with the parents for the report, they are so suprised and confirm that in real life the kid can handle overwhelmed better than other family members)
If you are concerned, tell her, tell her you love her and care for her and you want to know what she thinks and feel about this and ask her how can you as her mum can help her be healthy and happy.
use examples around you to show her how important it is to be healthy. (I'm obssesed about my kids being healthy, I know this is my "tick" - I lost two kids , I can't afford not to be like that) So if someone around is sick, I talk about it and "abuse" the opportunity to tell them why they must, must be healthy. My eldest went through dental surgery last week, short day surgery, the hospital was so not nice (you know, they ask you to come and wait, wait, wait for hours) every day since then, I talk about why we never, never need to be in hospital and stay healthy.
I know I'm not normal in this, but I feel I'm doing the right thing for me.
If this is important to you, do everything you can.
you say she is a wonderful girl, she might be happy, very happy if you talk to her about it.
Good luck
Ronit
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Other than the hygiene thing, you just described me. I'm pushing 40, not good at keeping house, outside of work I wear jeans and black t-shirts, I love my video games, and I'm overweight. I've been this way most of my life.
I'm also a college graduate. I have a great job. I have a great significant other. I have found hobbies outside of the house. At this age I've learned to keep my house cleaner. I've lost some weight.
Just so you know, your daughter sounds like the kind of person I'd hang out with. The people I hang out with are gamers, they're not the tidiest or the thinnest people in the world, but they all hold down good jobs, they're all wicked smart, artistic, and fun to be around. None of us do drugs or really drink.
And we're all happy.
She may be depressed, which may have to do with the hygiene thing and her weight issues. However, the rest doesn't seem like a problem to me.
I'm not depressed. I don't have ADD. I love my life and the people in it.
HUGS! Best of luck to you.
People with ADD get easily distracted by things like TV and Video Games. They can sit there for hours playing games or watching TV for some reason. In fact, one of my friends has severe adult ADD and if there's a TV on in the room he walks through, it will stop him in his tracks and he'll stare at it until someone turns it off. It's somewhat freaky when that happens.