My husband had a brief affair 6 years ago while working in another city. He decided to come back to the family later. When I found out, I was devastated. We were college sweethearts. In million years, I would not have any thought of his cheating on me. I cried and was mentally crushed during the first half year. My children knew this too. My husband did not know how to handle my crisis emotionally. He tried hard, but some times, he lost patience on me badly. When he did not know how to deal, he stormed out the door.
The worst thing was I told my devastion to my 12 years old son(at that time). He was very supportive and sweet at the time. Now he is almost 18. Since last year, he started distancing us a lot. He is a good boy, striving in school, going to a very good college soon. He told us that he can't wait to get out of this house. He rarely talks to us, but when talking, he is rude and hurting. Last week, my husband and I got into an argument. My son got super angry. He said that he is ashamed of us being his parents. He will never forgive how my husband behaved over the years, and how weak I was and dumped so much emotions on a 12 years old. He hates us. And when he grows up, he doesn't want to have anything to do with us. He told us that thankfully, he has friends(those are all good kids). He is glad that he opened up to his friends.
If time could go back, I would redo everything. Everytime, when I saw his hurting emotion, it breaks my heart. I apologized so many times. He always tells me that it is too late. I could trade my life to make this up. Please help how we can reconcile with our son.
Has anyone had success in stopping intrusive thoughts? If I am under stress they get worse. It was really bad a few weeks ago but is improving. I wish they woud never come back. They are like a bully in the back yard. Go away!