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potty training

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My three yr old will not go to bathroom and I can't figure out why, he is not fully potty trained yet but I know he knows when he needs to go because runs and hides somewhere and potty's all over himself. Any ideas on what to do?
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Hi. I just read your profile... first of all, I'm terribly sorry to hear about your husband. Given that your husband just passed away 6 months ago, your son just might not be "emotionally" ready to be completely potty trained.
There are a lot of posts on here in regards to potty training (check the Toddler discussion area too) particularly pertaining to boys. But I do know that a lot of kids will "pee" in the potty first and the "poop" comes later.
I would not pressure him at all. When he's ready, he'll let you know.
Best of luck!
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I would certainly agree. I have many 3 year olds I care for and some just need some time with the bathroom training. With the hardship and stressors you and the children are facing, reassurance is what you need now. Make it positive but no need to be agressive with it.

All the best,

Dr. J
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I would not be pushing so hard but he goes to kind of a preschool before preschool and they will not take him next yr if he doesn't potty.
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What finally worked with my son - very close to his 4th b-day and right before school started-was a big-boy-underpants party. We told him when he was ready to dive up diapers for good, he would have a party with presents and cake. A few days later, he was ready. We took him to the toy store to pick out a present, and then to the grocery store to pick up a cake. We went to my parents house and celebrated. He asked me later what would happen if he wanted his diapers back. I told him he'd have to take his presents back. He's been diaper-free ever since!
BeckyK
BeckyK
Be patient. That is easier said than done I know. The more pressure you put on him the longer it will be before he is potty trained. I gave 3 M&M's each time he pee peed in the pottie and had clean dry pants. When he started pooping on the potty I made a huge deal about it and gave him a prize. I had a bunch of old McDonalds toys from happy meals (He doesn't know they come with a toy) I had saved in a bag and let him choose a "prize", worked like a charm. He never had a poopie accident again. (Knock of wood)ha ha.
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