I don't have any advice, but i know how you feel. My 3yr old never listens to me. He does better for other people and I've tried everything. The only thing that works is when i totally lose it and yell at him. I HATE doing that. I just keep trying different displine strategies. Every child is different and needs to be treated that way. Hang in there, you'll come through this too!

I know how you feel, I went through a stage were I thought I had the worst behaved kids in the world, and once more I have realized it is a stage where they are trying to set their boundries with you and test you. I then averted to rewarding them for good behaviour , I bought a chart with cool little magnets and placed a to do list, e.g. listening, dressing themselves, eating their healthy foods, no fighting, going to bed without a fuss and boy did that work, I explained that at the end of the week if they got no more than 3 sad faces on their chart they would get a treat, it is up to you to decide what, I gave them either a little toy from the 99c store or a chocolate treat and they could barely wait to place their happy faces on their chart when they did good,it was interesting to see how dissapointed they got when they received a sad face occasionally, we kept with the chart for about 3 months and things are great now. Kids will always try and be defiant and test their boundaries but that's why we are here to guide them and make them understand why good behaviour and listening is important. Good luck , it worked for me

oh my gosh, my little girl is upsetting me to the point of losing my temper lately. she has been misbehaving and not listening most of the time now. just talking to her used to work great and quickly but now that does practically nothing. time outs and talking work for a short time. i refuse to spank her i think that she will have the same reasoning as i did when i was spanked as a child and it won't work, just teach her how to manipulate. 4 is an awful age.. i haven't found a good way to deal with this latest stage and i'm trying so hard. i can usually roll with the punches so to speak but this is definitely a challenge.

i can relate to this too! my son has issues listening to me, only he laughs at me when i discipline him. it's horrible. i can't seem to do anything to discipline him that he won't laugh at. i'd say try to be consistent no matter what you do with your son. if he cries and says hurtful things to you, try to let it go. i've finally come to a point where i'm able to let it go when my son tells me he doesn't like me. it's not always easy, but i keep in mind that they don't always mean what they say, just like an adult. it helps to keep that in mind. i hope you find something that works for you! i'm here if you need me!

Is there anything else going on in your household? New sibling? New house? New school? Kids can be overly sensitive when there are changes affecting their lives. You might want to look at the situation and see if there is another factor involved.

Regardless, I think you need to be consistent and calm every time you ask him to do something. And there must be consequences when he does bot listen. When he cries and says "You don't love me any more...." Calmly tell him, "I love you very much, even when you cry and and disobey me. But it's not okay when you don't listen to me. And that's why you need a time out (etc.)...

I hope that helps!