I he watches tv or cartoons, monitor what he is viewing. You didn't mention his other development. If he hates being touched, it may be a symptom of asperger's or mild autisum. Request a full exam from your pedi. doctor.

Try doing something new with him like crafts or play cars.It might be just a stage but most kids change from to another in a few months or weeks.Might sure he knows what he is doing is wrong and it hurts your feeling.If he eats a lot of sweet you might try more fruits and don't let him play video games or watch things with violence.Some cartoons are bad for this.Like hitting each either.

THERE IS HOPE!!!!! If you take at look at how desperate i was for help with my son at first, you'll understand better.... my son, from the DAY he was born, was agressive, and it only got worse!! He was violent, mean, and VERY combative......... i tried EVERYTHING under the sun, to tame it, and get him ynder control...nothing worked.... I decided, to enroll him in pre-k this fall, because he just turned 4, and no joke, he's a TOTALLY different kid! I was scared at first to send him, because i had no idea what they were going to think of the way he acted, but every single day, the teacher gave wonderful reports on him! I couldn't believe my ears.. i didn't think we could possibly be talking about the same kid! I don't know if it was school, or turning 4 that straightened him out...possibly a combonation of both... but he's great now! For the past 2 months, he's been patient, calm, attentive, and obedient.... i thought he was destined to be out of control forever! So here's my advice...stick it out for the next year, then put him in pre-k.... at that time, things should change....:)

i do try and monitor what he watches on tv and i am constantly trying new games with him but his attention is only short, i am thinking of putting him in daycare but i am scared but i will try and see if it makes a difference to him. has anyone had a good responce to behaviour problems by using omega3 fish oil??

Have there been big changes in your son's life? New house, sibling or anything like that? You should first try to see what it is that sets him off. Is it frustration or true anger?

I would also take your son to see a developmental pediatrician for an evaluation.

Good luck and please keep us posted.

Okay, I have two book suggestions for you. I know books but they are great for the aggressive/angry kids.

Positive Discipline (there is a series of these for different age groups).

The Incredible Years by Dr Carolyn Webster-Stratton. She's a licensed clinical psychologist that has done TONS of research over the last 25 yrs and over 3000 families. It goes very much along with what Positive Discipline is proposing. Her book is about play and praise for good behavior. She does say that the more angry/agressive the child the more praise can pull them out of it. I have seena huge difference in my son and we are only on week 5 of the 10 week class.

Check out www.incredibleyears.com OUr classes are totally free and payed for by the county, I found out about our class through my parents as teachers program. I don't know if the website has any info about classes in your area but I think reading the PD books or IY book will surely make a difference. Good luck.

I kind of agree with the school thing...I stayed home with my twins for as long as possible - 2 years and 10 months...it was grueling in the end and I just preyed everyday that I would soon get a job...my kids NEEDED more stimulation, more that I could ever give them...They are fabulous kids, but the outbursts and temper tantrums and general boredom have dramatically subsided...Maybe, if you can afford it, take him to "school" a few mornings a week, or enroll in mom and me programs...get him out of the house...I know that we all want to stay home with our children because we think it is the best thing for them, and it is, BUT, sometimes its not...My kids NEED to be with people who can teach them...I can only manage the day-to-day and prepair for disasters (as a single mom I can only manage so much). I realize that I cannot be everything to the twins. I am only one human being...I tell you, Montessori was a great opportunity for all three of us. The kids LOVE it, they have their little friends and they are learning like gangbusters....Try getting out of the house more...if it is a possibility. There are also many free things at your local library...My local library was a God send...I was there three mornings a week...I was totally broke and needed free activities...Good luck...I think hes boored...

My 3 year old son is difficult also. I have just started (yesterday) 1-2-3 magic. I got the book from the libraray. It is too early to tell if it is working but it does help me even just to read it.
My boy is frustrated a lot because he has three older brothers and 3 older quasi-stepsiblings who can all do more stuff than him and I think it just makes him mad as hell. So he tries to be controlling. He even tied a shoelace around my 6 year olds neck this morning and tried to lead him around the house. He just wishes he was a big boss and it makes him act like a little tyrant. The more stuff he can do on his own, the better he feels about himself, and the less tyrannical he is. Also he responds well to genuine praise. Like when he dresses himself I get all happy and we do high fives and he struts around and doesn't bug anyone for a little while. He'll say "I dressed myself!". He's also very proud of himself for going to preschool. "I go to preschool!" So maybe a preschool program is good for these types. Good luck to you, it will get better. I have four wild little boys and I can guarantee you that they do improve as they get older.