Well I'm currently ttcas so I don't know what your going through. But a couple of ideas would be to put time aside for u and your son when the baby is sleep. Let him to help you with the new child doing simple tasks so he feels needed and important. That's what I would do.

When baby comes home, repeat over and over how much baby loves his brother. How lucky baby is to have such a kind and caring big brother. Rent movies about brothers -- Rugrats has one, there is a disney one with bears. Let brother (with supervision) hold baby, feed baby, help with changing. 3 year olds eeant to help. Emply him anyway you can. Make him feel very important and fundamental in this baby's life. He is! These two will always have each other.

I know how you feel! Before my son was born, I had a lot of anxiety about the transition our family was about to go through. Since we were transitioning my then 3 year old daughter out of her crib to make room for the baby, I took her to pick out some "big girl" bedding so that she did not feel like she was getting kicked out of her space. We read lots of books and movies, too. Additionally, there were things that only my daughter and I could do together(ride bikes, etc.) that made her feel special. It's a difficult (but amazing) journey and for me, I felt guilty for not having one-on-one time with either child. Now that they are older (7 and 4) they play so great together and I can't picture them appart! Good luck and hang in there!

My son was a mommies boy too (still is at 8)...when I brought my second daughter home he was 2 and a half. I got him involved with his new baby sister, he helped to get the diapers, wipes, helped me feed her, etc... Don't worry too much, the new baby will sleep alot anyways and you will both still have time together. Good luck!!

thanx guys

You need to prep him for what to expect. There are TONS of books about bing the big brother and new responsibilites and problems with babies. You can get them at your local library. You need to have conversations about it and let him know that things WILL change, but he'll always be loved. Then you need to carve out time for him after the baby's born.

Then, expect him to 'hate' the baby and not like him and not enjoy being a 'helper' all the time. This is NORMAL and expected. Some kids never do display these feelings, but even those that do, will grow out of it, especially with a mom and dad who make sure that both children get special time.

He won't understand it right now, but if you have lots of conversations about it, he at least won't be blindsighted.

My son was 17 months when my daughter was born.... I fealt the same way as you.. To my surprise, HE DID GREAT! When she was born, he coped with it as if it had always been that way.. it's scary, i know, but it works.... don't be stressed! :)

I am also pregnant and due the end of jan. My 4 year old cant wait till the baby gets here but I have the same worries as you. I think he thinks the ideas sounds good till the baby gets here. I think I am going to try and get Logan to help me as much as he can/wants and let his father spend some extra time with him while I am busy with the baby. I also plan on letting Chris (daddy) keep the baby and spend some one on one time alone with Logan. Hopefully it will all work out for you in the end! Good luck

at this age is good to let him help and involve him with the baby. Use the time when the baby sleeps to do one on one time. Also if you can have someone watch the baby and take him out to lunch, the park, or just a walk, etc. Just some ideas

Here are a few tips:

**Make sure that you spend quality one-on-one time with your son (when the baby is sleeping) and have special days for the two of you while someone else cares for the baby.

**Let him help you with the baby. And as mentioned in other posts, there are a lot of great books for "big brothers." Start reading them asap.

**Before the baby is born, sneak out and get a "special present" for your son. When your son comes to see you and the new baby in the hospital, tell him the present is from the baby. He will treasure it... and also, when your son comes to the hospital, make sure you don't have the baby in your arms. Leave the baby in the bassinet or let someone else hold him/her while you greet your son.

you,ve all really helped thak you all so much!!

Having gone thru the same situation I found that as long as you find time for your oldest,get down on his level,talk to hm and play with him as much as you can things should be fine.Most importantly be sure to encourage him,tell him how much you love him and maybe even try to include him in caring for the baby.I did this by asking my oldest to hand me the bottle,diaper,etc.Sometimes my oldest still gets jealous but I make sure I keep verbal communication open and try to have as much 1 on 1 as possible.Good luck,this is a joyous time,enjoy it!!!

I was going to suggest the present thing and scope him up and cuddle the heck out of him when he gets to the hospital and say something like 'I have someone here who really wants too meet you!'. We read a book called 'theres a house inside my mommy' it's a good one!