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For the last 6 months, my 3 year old daughter has been begging me to pierce her ears. My first thought was "What? You're 3 years old! You shouldn't even be thinking about earrings." There are one or two girls at her preschool that have pierced ears and she talks about it all the time. I told her no and just because so and so have their ears pierced, does not mean that she needs to have hers done.
I also wear earrings but not every day and nothing extravagent... I've never made a big deal out of earrings and it baffles me that she's so stuck on the notion. I want her to believe that she doesn't need earrings to be beautiful and that beauty is found on the "inside."
I'm sure I sound like Charlie Brown's parents to her.... blah, blah, blah.
But the conversation is becoming more frequent and more frantic. Ultimately, I will allow her to have pierced ears but I'm thinking it's still years down the road!
So, I guess my question to you is: Does your daughter have pierced ears? How old was she when she had them done?
Any pros? What are the cons?
Help shed some light on this dillema!
Thank you!
I also wear earrings but not every day and nothing extravagent... I've never made a big deal out of earrings and it baffles me that she's so stuck on the notion. I want her to believe that she doesn't need earrings to be beautiful and that beauty is found on the "inside."
I'm sure I sound like Charlie Brown's parents to her.... blah, blah, blah.
But the conversation is becoming more frequent and more frantic. Ultimately, I will allow her to have pierced ears but I'm thinking it's still years down the road!
So, I guess my question to you is: Does your daughter have pierced ears? How old was she when she had them done?
Any pros? What are the cons?
Help shed some light on this dillema!
Thank you!
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Would finding some clip on ear rings maybe tide her over until she's older or has come out of this obsessive phase?
I personally wear my studs (the ones I got them pierced with originally) and only wear special ones on special occassions. I have a daughter, turning 2 today and I plan that she is going to be in grade school as well. I think by waiting until then, they have time to really think it over. Besides, I feel like they should be old enough to be able to care for them as well. In the beginning, they need to be cleaned and at 3 can she really do that for herself? I don't know of a reason to give her that is going to satisfy her. Good luck, I'm sure I'll be in your shoes soon enough :)
Hmm. I have a knee-jerk response that says "no way till 16." But I wonder why I feel that way? I think part of it is it's permanency (I know, you can take them out, but I did that and have big balls of scar tissue there). There's lots of running around in her future -- why have something in that can be torn out and cause permanent scarring?
Also, three seems pretty young to be making decisions like that; I wanted desperately to go to Hawaii when I was nearly 4, but had no idea what that even really was or meant.
[okay, bad example: I still ache to go..again]
The other part of my resistance has to do with childhood and reaching milestones, etc. There is something to be said for not racing to give them everything so early. It stops being special. As Gretchen Rubin (on her blog, The Happiness Project) writes, it's "the hazard of the 'hedonic treadmill.' We enjoy some new luxury, for a time, but soon we start taking it for granted; it no longer gives us particular enjoyment."
As my mother mirthfully said to me when I insisted I wanted to go to Hawaii for my fourth birthday: "honey, that's great but if we do that when you're four, whatever will we do when you're twelve?"
As with toys, in these cases I think less is more.
But just my humble opinion
So really I wouldn't say not to do it because so and so didn't do it til they were a certain age. If you think she wouldn't mind the constant cleaning or the fact that not matter what they will get atleast a minor infection. Then why not. My daughter knows now that she doesn't want them and the holes have completely closed.
i suggest checking out clip-on's. i remember when mine were done, i was about 14 and it hurt like (all get out)heck.
you may want to talk to her to see if she understands that when its done she can't change them for atleat 6 weeks and have to keep them clean every day, twist them also. if you feel she doesn't quite understand then make her wait.
good luck!